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30-35,
*rybby
writes:Hey... my girlfriend had a guy message her that she said she talked to like "that" before we met. but once we met she stopped talking to him. he wrote her on myspace when she was at my house and said "hey whats good, i miss yu girl i want to see yu". she turned him down and said she was taken but i asked her to remove him. she said she would, then stalled and stalled. eventually she got pissed at me for repeatedly asking to remove him. she claims she isnt a cheater, but ive been played so much i dont know. i feel like ive been being and asshole but i feel she should respect me and remove him if he is no one significant like she says. i would really like to not have to break up with her because she is the first ive dated in a while that is special to me and i really care and love her. any way around this without breaking up with her?
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reader, Srybby +, writes (19 August 2009):
Srybby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey this is me... i broke up with her, and uhm she did cheat on me i caught her face to face ended up spending some time in jail for hurting the guy but o well just lettin ya kno
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reader, aprilfools +, writes (9 August 2009):
 Well, these people may disagree but I agree with you, dude.If he's no one important and has nothing to say to him then she WOULD delete him. I've been cheated before too. It's not fun at all... I think you need to explain to her how this makes you feel.i hacked into my fiancee's myspace once (sick, I know...) and I found several things that I definately wasn't expecting.He ended up deleting his page bc of that...Idk dude...But I don't think she'd care about deleting him or not unless she has a reason to talk to him...
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reader, busy04 +, writes (9 August 2009):
 You have absolutely no true reason to break up with this girl!!
If she said that she's gonna delete this guy, then trust her to do it & chill, calm your nerves. It would be a total different thing if she was constantly having conversation with this guy, but I take it she's not. And you can't get upset just because she didn't do it when YOU wanted her too & I would get upset also if someone was constantly telling me to do something & I in return was constantly telling that I would do it. You say that you've been played before but that is no reason to make every female involved with you suffer because of your own past hurt & present insecurities. Deal with your own issues, if she has given you no true reason to believe that she'd be unfaithful to you...then trust her! You said that she turned the guy down & told him that she was taken...so that should mean something, she didn't have to do that but evidently she cares enough about you to have done it. Stop stressing over something that's really no big deal, straighten out your personal issues & let it go...be happy with your girlfriend, keep loving her & caring for her.
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reader, Twistedbaby420 +, writes (9 August 2009):
 She might not necessarily be a cheater. She could just be one of those people that unfortunately desires and enjoys attention from other people, even though they're in a relationship with someone that adores them. It's extremely frustrating and annoying, but if that is how she is, it isn't going to change.
You'll either have to learn to accept it and trust her, or decide that you're not okay with it and end things.
Are there any girls from your past that she is aware of and uncomfortable with you talking to? If so, maybe you could bring that up (ask her how she would feel if you were friends with this girl from your past, how would your girlfriend feel if this girl was messaging you and telling you how much she misses you and wants to see you?)
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