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*oothpic
writes:well my question is this,ive been with the same girl for 2 years and a bit,she is great in so many wonderfull ways and not great in so many frustrating ways. We do not live together and have no real reason to do so at this point because were still learning from each other and who needs to ruin good thing because everyone eles is doing it,however im at a stand still we just did a 6 day part do to the fact that there is some understanding that was missing,now my understanding that i got from the part was i was too clingy i lost my confidence and looked to her to get it back for me ,bad idea...my confidence ..my fix. k got that im ok now thanks to her for giving me a push. But my thing with her is she likes ,lots of time alone and does not like to talk about things that bother her,she just sticks way back and that is that,we love each other,truly we do and ive brought this up but man i feel like she just dont care about what i need from her to help me not feel the way i do.
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reader, toothpic +, writes (12 March 2010):
toothpic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell that has crossed through my mind many times ,however there are some circumstaces that lead me to beleive that she is this way for many reasons,one she just went through a major leg sergery 7mths ago,and now lives back at home and not able to work and has been cut off of income assistance. She is a very independant women and dose love me ,her familly is more than less affectionate ,no i love you,hugs hows your day,and a really messed up first long term realationship,i have alot of patience for her because she has not learned from a reliable sorce so to speak,dont get me wrong i can only put up with so much but we do love each other and we are learning from each other ,i am being a little more pushy with the subject but not willing to let go yet,besides i like the i love you very much and have a wonderfull day at work in my lunch kit some mornings,my life has been fairly messed up also so between the 2 of us i think wre doing well,are comunication is getting better and we both are willing but there is still some areas that need work,im not asking for her to change i acccept her,just wondering how i may be able to help with the opening up,im in no rush ,there is no ecspectations in this area only patience with she has for me when im in a rutt.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Dear Toothpic - opposites attract but likes stay together. You are not meant to be with this girl. Love should not be so stressful for you. Find someone more suited to you. You are not going to "stop feeling this way" until you get with someone else. Does this make sense to you?
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