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30-35,
anonymous
writes:HELP!! Me and my partner are going to split up! We have been going through rocky patches so far and it doesnt help with her hormones going sky high.She went through my emails and me and my partner got together in June, there was pictures of a girl on there and that going back till April. I wasnt even talking to my current partner and now she is kicking up a big fuss about it!She had exactly the same and I let that slip as I didnt think it was worth arguing over. Now she is on the verge of splitting with me and there is nothing I can do. She calls me a cheat and this and that.To be honest if she trusted me 100% why would she go through my emails. Only problem is we can not really split as she is 3 months gone pregnant so things are hard. I can't just walk away because I want this r'ship to work and want to be a family.I forgot about the whole emails because I never go on them anymore and she just saw them and now its a battlefield.What should I do. I don't want to break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): I wouldn't do anything right now. Let her be mad and don't contact her at all for a couple of weeks or until she contacts you. She needs to cool off.
It sounds like she is very stressed out about being pregnant and she probably is very worried about what will happen. Give her some time to sort herself out and make some decisions on her own.
You may end up broken up, she may want to raise the child on her own, it is very hard to start a marriage when you are just teenagers, have no real jobs or money or assets and try to make a marriage work with all that going against it. Add in a baby and you have major expenses and major stress.
I think you need to talk to your parents or an older relative for advice on what to do going forward with the girl and the baby. I know what you want to do and what you wish for, but will it even work and will it change the course of your life and the goals you may never achieve because of it.
You have some major thinking to do and so does she. So take a break from all the drama for awhile. She will calm down and she will call you, trust me on that one.
Just leave it alone for now.
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