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writes:Me and my bf have been dating for 4 months and we're absolutley in love, no doubt about it. We spend a lot of time together, I stay at his place 5-6 nights of the week. We both know we're gonna be with each other for a long time, and we have recently discussed moving in together. We both want to live with each other, but my mom thinks its way too soon. Seeing as this is the first relationship for both of us, I would like some addvice. Im 21 and he's 23 and has a good job and his own place already. Should we live together so soon? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Look - it is different for everybody.
My friend moved in with her bf after only dating him for 3 months, and they are still happy a year later, and just recently got engaged.
I on the other hand, moved in with my boyfriend after a year of dating, and still feel sometimes that it might have been too soon.
Living together is totally different from sleeping over. In the 3 months before i moved in with my bf, i was also sleeping over at least 5 times a week. But that was ME, going to sleep over at HIS place. His place = his rules and his living standards and his preferences etc etc etc.
It is a whole new set of rules when you move in together. It now becomes your place and your rules etc.
Also - your mom has every right to be concerned. You are her little girl, and she doesn't want you being hurt, but the final decision is yours.
You need to ask yourself: Are you ready? Are you ready to not mind the dirty laundry and the unmade bed (sorry, just generalizing here). If you feel that you are ready, and you are absolutely sure, then go for it.
My bf and i fought for about 4 months after moving in together, and it has taken a lot of change from both of us, so just be aware that it is a big step, and if you have any doubts, then just wait a little longer.
Good luck...
Let us know what you decide
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Hi
I would say yes i think you should, this is yours and your b/f's choice only and no-one elses you know how you feel & you already spend most nights with him.
When i met my husband i still lived at home, my husband moved in at my parents house at just over 2 months we are still together 13 years on so i'm proof that it can work!
Good luck with it all i hope it works out well for you!!
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