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writes:Hi my girlfriend want to have sex with me but I feel like I'm not ready yet to that kind of relation because that will my first experience with Sex ...I love her and she loves me too and we were dating for the last 2 yrs we both 16 years old I'm afraid abt all that stuff abt sex Because like i said I feel like I'm not ready yet to that. I love her and I want to make her happy by giving her all what she wants! so should i overtake my feelings and make her happy (I mean do u think i'm older nuf to have sex! ? )or tell her she must take it slowly and play a dangerous game than i can lose her or push her to cheating me What Sould I Do Plz Help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2012): If you don't feel like you're ready for sex then don't have sex. Simple. However your girlfriend 'is ready for a sexual relationship', if she doesn't respect that you are not ready then she is not worth your time because that would show to me that she does not respect your emotions etc... Don't have sex with your girlfriend because she is ready have sex when you are BOTH ready! And remember if she does not respect that you're not ready for sex then she is not worth it. If she pushes you away because of the whole situation then she is selfish! But I'm sure she wont if she loves you!
Good luck.
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reader, Aunt lexi  +, writes (4 August 2012):
I think if you are not ready then you should sit down with her and talk to her, communication is key, if she doesn't know how you are feeling you could end up making a huge mistake. it is so cute that you 2 have been together for so long but it may be best to wait until you are totally sure that you want to give yourself to her. remember it is called making love so make sure that it is real love. i understand that you want to make her happy but sex isn't the be all and end all in a relationship. if you aren't ready then that is totally fine, i am sure she will understand and she will wait until you are ready. first time sex shouldn't be a planned thing, it should be spontaneous and special, so when it happens it will happen there is absolutely no need to rush into it.
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reader, Emma83  +, writes (3 August 2012):
Go with your gut! Tell her exactly what you said to us. You love her but are NOT ready. Neither of you are ready for sex yet.And as harsh as it sounds if she's not willing to wait for you...well then SHE'S not worth that "first time". I am proud of you resisting not many young men today realize they CAN wait. With raging hormones and sex everywhere you are MILES ahead of your peers. Stay true to yourself. Let her know you love her but that your respect her and yourself to wait. There will be plenty of time for that when you both are older. And again if she isn't willing to wait the SHE isn't worth it!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 August 2012):
 I say this to girls all the time, NO WAY should you ever be pushed into sex. Having sex because you're afraid of her cheating is no reason ever to do it. If she cheats, then she wasn't the girl for you anyways. A relationship doesn't have to have intercourse to be a relationship, especially at your age.
Tell her you're not ready, end of story. You're 16. Being together for 2 years is irrelevant, because you are both still teenagers.
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