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writes: Hi everyone I have a little question, how do I get my girlfriend into a sexual mindset? Its that stage of the relationship when would want to get physical. We've kissed before and grabbed ofcourse. She wants to have sex but she doesnt want to seam like a slut, its her first time too. How do I make her comfortable about the whole idea. she needs a little pushing and passion I think, but how? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006):
There should really be no question of behaving like a slut if you are a serious bf. You need to put in sufficent time that both of you understand the trust level the other has in them.
I've never had a serious gf where there was ever any doubt that I would think them a slut or that I would go blab details of what we did to everyone.
She should feel safe in being a 'slut' for *you*. I wouldnt try to "push" things if you arent at that point. So take it at the right pace, stay at kissing for another month if you need to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): Hello, i understand where your girlfriend is coming from because i am just like her. I wanted to take things further with my (now ex) boyfriend, but because i was inexperienced i was frightened about making any moves and waited for him to start things too much. What helped me though was lots of skin stroking and touching, just to get used to the physical closeness. I also have lots of hang ups about my body, so him touching me and telling me i was nice made me feel better about myself and the whole idea of being naked around him etc. But definitely talk to her about it and when she is ready be a gentleman, treat her like a princess. I know that personally i would like a nice meal, candles and ambient music. Maybe even fresh flowers. Just make it a nice atmosphere for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): Most girls want their first time to be romantic and special, after all you always remember your first time. Don't be in too much of a rush to be her first. take it slowly for a while, without the presure of you wanting sex from her. When she's ready, she'll let you know.
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