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writes: Hey guy's...I've been with my partner for 10 months and after a hard morning texting her we decided to meet after work and talk about things as the past 4 or 5 weeks have been tough, we've argued quite a lot, she's been changing her job as she's been temping etc etc etc...Anyway, after a long talk, in a nut shell I said deep down I don't want it to end, she said I think it might be best if we have a bit of time apart for like 4 or 5 weeks..I agreed obviously to this as she said she still loves me and misses me etc so I'm sure there's hope for us... we spoke on the phone again about 30 minutes after I dropped her off and we still have very strong feelings for each so I'm hoping that things will work themselves out after this sort of time scale... I'm actually praying that things work out..But I suck at things like this so I'm not sure which way to play it, she said we'll still speak and see each other but this is where im stuck, do I text/call her now and again or do I wait for her to contact me? I don't know how to play it really.I'm pretty sure that in time, after we have spent a good few weeks apart and being on our own things will work out and we'll be stronger and better for it so I'm going to keep smiling and thinking positive.Surely if we love each other that much, there will be enough determination and willingness to make it work so fingers crossed hey!..Thanks for all the reply's.
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reader, honestheart  +, writes (15 March 2008):
Does your partner know exactly how you feel about her? That's one thing you failed to say in your post. If she knows you love her and she says the same thing then you probably need time apart. If she doesn't know, then as a woman, the best thing a man can do is tel me how he feels honestly and openly. Open your heart to her and i'm sure she'll do the same.
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reader, staygoldeveryone  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Well first off, it sounds like you and your partner have a very strong bond, that neither of you want to give up. She obviously had her reasons for wanting to take a break, and I think you are doing the right thing by staying friends.
Being female myself, unless she says "don't try and contact me please," you should make an effort as well. Don't try too hard, but let her know you're still thinkin' about her. Because most likely if you don't, she will begin to think you don't care anymore, or something. Let her know you do still care and make an effort to talk to her. She'll most likely come around.
Taking a break sometimes can be a good thing, because a lot of the time, you both realize that you're so much happier and better off with each other, than trying so hard just to get by emotionally, without each other.
Try and focus on some other important things in your life as well. Then, you won't have to worry as much about this situation.
I hope you two work things out, if it's meant to happen, it will find it's way.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Wait for her to contact you.
Or you could just ask her what she wants. What are her conditions regarding this space???
You could call her and ask her.
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