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writes:Hello! My girlfriend and I are together for a year and a half now. We both never liked going out but she got some new friends and she started going out with them. She changed and when I confronted her about it she said that she doesn't feel about me the way she did and that she wants to go wild for a while (drink constantly with her friends, have sex with any guy she wants) and than come back to me. I told her that it was out of the question and that she has to choose. She said that she doesn't want to loose me but doesn't love me the way she did anymore. She is not the same person she once was. I don’t know what to do! I can’t be with her knowing that she doesn’t love me but yet I love her so much and want to spend the rest of my life with her. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Sorry if this sounds harsh but she has changed and the person you were in love with no longer exists. You have both said what you want and it is not the same thing. It is hard to let go when you have been involved with someone, but you have to.
You will find someone else who wants the same things in life. Give it time and meanwhile fill your life up with new things and new people, get the support of your family and friends and be strong.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (2 January 2008):
 You answered this one yourself when you said "I can’t be with her knowing that she doesn’t love me."
You need to move onward and upward. If she thinks that her new friends and lifestyle is a move forward, she's gravely mistaken.
As for you, when one door closes, another one opens. The right person for you could be behind that next open door. Be there when it happens. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): i think you have to accept that she doesnt feel the way for you that you do for her.
You can either see her as a 'fuckbuddy' and get on with your own life at the same time or walk away from the intimate side remaining just a friend if you can handle that. If not just walk away altogether. If you agree to remain true to her whilst she does as she pleases you will end up very unhappy
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