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writes:I have been best friends with this guy for 4 years. He means the world to me and he has always been there for me. He knows me better than anyone, and he has sat on the phone with me all night listening to me cry when I'm upset about something on more than one occassion. I can talk to him about anything and no matter what he is there for me. The problem is, he lives in another state - I live in SC and he lives in Illinois. He moved up there for a job, but we still talk on the phone everyday (sometimes even twice a day). He told me a while back that he was falling for me, but he didn't mention it because he didn't want things to be weird between us. He told me not to worry about it because he had already accepted that we would never work because of the distance. Well, after he told me that, I realized I was really starting to fall for him too. I finally broke down and told him and he basically said that he went through the same thing and he finally had to accept that nothing can happen - at least not anytime soon. He seems to have an easier time accepting that, because I've cried myself to sleep for the past week after getting off the phone with him. I don't know what to do. It's hard to make arrangments to visit each other because of his job. I'm also in college and have a part time job so it makes it harder. I don't know what to do. I have thought about telling him I need some time and maybe we shouldn't talk as much anymore, but he is my best friend and the thought of losing what we have breaks my heart. Someone please give me some advice - I don't know what to do anymore. I'm in love with him and I've never felt this way about anyone else. These aren't just "fling" feelings...I can see myself having a future with him and I want that more than anything. Should I try to move on and find someone else, as impossible as that may seem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies. It just seems like it isn't getting much easier. When I'm on the phone with him I am the happiest girl on earth, and when we hang up I just want to cry.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (2 January 2008):
 Hey haters. Sorry you can't look into my last post and see that my tongue was pressed firmly into my cheek.
Hell yeah! If you want this schmuck, move closer to him. Someone has to be the romantic! LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): I think the best relationships start off from friendship and this sounds like it stands a good chance of success. I disagree with Ponungalungb that you need another romantic - someone has to be realistic!
See if he would like you to move nearer to him and then get together and discuss it.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (2 January 2008):
It's sad to think that in this day and age that something as simple as a job can keep two hearts from beating as one.
This guy sounds too practical for you. You need a true romantic. A true romantic would climb any mountain, ford any stream, follow any rainbow, 'till he's with his dream.* Find yourself a true romantic. They're out there. . . just waiting for you.
O.K., I'll put the syrup away. LOL.
Good luck.
* Alright, so I paraphrased some lyrics from the "Sound of Music." Don't be a hater.
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