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writes:A female friend and myself, who seldom see each other, have been texting each other quite often for a while now. In recent months the texts have got more and more flirty until the other evening the subject of sex cropped up when my female friend suggested that we become f*ck buddies. This is all well and good and we have actually agreed to meet up to see what happens but I have a certain amount of apprehension due to the fact I suffer with PE. Do I meet up with her and if anything happens between us explain to her before hand? Carry on and let it happen then explain afterwards? or make up some sort of excuse, don't go at all and save myself any embarrassment at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): There are degrees of PE, and you haven't given us enough to go on. The first few times with a girl that you're completely turned on by, ya, it goes off pretty quickly. If you're having a long weekend, the first night it's ten times, the next day it's another five and the edge is off and you're getting to know her, and it's taking longer, no? So the second night, after you've worked the OMG out of your system, it's taking longer?
That's to say that some PE is tied up in not having had sex in a while, or in a situation that's particularly charged. And that if you're in a situation where you can work it out, it becomes better with time and practice. And if in the meantime you're working at getting her off with fingers etc., she's not likely to be worried about your "problem".
That's a long way of saying "go for it!"
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reader, TexasTexas  +, writes (7 February 2011):
Well......do you LIKE her and respect her? Is this something you would do only as an "in" to pursue a relationship with her?I don't know how old you are. I would text her that you've been thinking it over and you'd rather not have meaningless sex with her. I am not a prude, but how can you agree to make love to someone (penis involvement or not) when you haven't even kissed her?What if her body smell nauseates you? Do y'all have any non-sexual interests? Do you know how many sexual partners she has had? Is it ok for you to add "herpes" to your sexual issue?No thank you. Your EP is not the issue here. When you fall in love, that Issue will be handled with love and respect.
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reader, JustmeScarb  +, writes (7 February 2011):
Go and meet with her, see what happens. If things get hot and heavy, just go with it. Try not to think about your PE, that will just make it worse. Just relax and go with the flow. You never know, you might just not PE at all, as long as you concentrate on her pleasure and not stress over yours. If you do cum too fast then take a break and try again. If she does care about you, she'll understand and help you through this difficulty. Good luck and enjoy yourself, and just remember to RELAX!!BTW One trick is to masturbate and cum before you meet with her, you will be less stressed and might last longer too.
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (7 February 2011):
 I would say go for it and see what happens. There are several things you can do beforehand to help though.First, try seeing your doctor, they will have some tips on what to do and maybe some medication. Also there are condoms on the market that have a mild anaesthetic in the lining which numbs you slightly so that you last longer. It may help too if you tell her that you have been PRONE to premature ejeculation, don't tell her it's a condition, that way she accepts that there's a chance you could be premature with her, but maybe not.Also, try oral sex on her first if your worried you may not pleasure her through direct sex.Hope things go well dude.All the best, Dataluke
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