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writes: I have been texting and talking to this girl for the past month, and i feel absolutely besotted by her. She knows how i feel about her, but is scared to commit to another relationship. In the last 2 years she has lost 2 babies (1 by choice and 1 not), and she and her long term boyfriend have split up.She wants to be friends, and I dont mind that, but I find it hard to be friends and keep a smile on when her past keeps bringing her down. She says she knows I will be there for her forever whatever happens, but I adore her and never want to let her go! We are sleeping together - not in the dirty way mind - we just share beds and we spend everyother weekend at each other houses. I have told her how I feel and even proposed to her, but I dont know how long I can wait for her although i feel like i could wait for her forever. How long do you think she'll need to get over the bad occasions in her past?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2005): That is a very sweet story .It seems to me you love her very much and she likes you too .Dont pressure her because her past seems very sad she hasnt fully got over wat shes lost and it seems a lot.You need to give her alot of time to think maybe she should try councilin about her loss of her babies it may help.The past for a person can be very painful and it will always be with her.You need to let her know that you understand about her past and tell her that you love her and will wait for her this will give her abit of reasurence and it will tell her that you really do love her and maybe its not so bad !! just give her time to get over the little things :) luv franxx
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reader, oneshyhunni +, writes (17 June 2005):
This is a very complicated question. First off as a woman I can tell you that we rarely get over our pasts, they haunt us forever even though we usually are able to move on with our lives. Something you have to consider is that maybe she just doesnt want to be in a relationship at all right now. She probably needs time away. She knows that you're not going anywhere so she figures she can take her time and come to you when she's ready. I suggest that you keep doing what youre doing. In the long run you'll be glad that she had the time to work her problems out before starting this new relationship. She'll be better able to commit fully to you.
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