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She wants me to do things in bed that I disagree with

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Question - (22 December 2009) 13 Answers - (Newest, 24 December 2009)
A male United States age 41-50, *o sweet writes:

Ok I have a major problem. I have been dating this new girl for 3 months now. I have always been known as the sweet guy and I am very repsectful towards women. The thing is my girlfreidn is kinda kiny when it coems to sex. Which I think is fun but she wants me to cum on her face. I can't. Even though she wants me to do it I feel like I am being disrespectful to her or degrading her by doing that. I have seen it in porn and I think it is horrible, But she is lterally begging me to do it. WHat shoudl i do

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A female reader, tatsuko United States +, writes (24 December 2009):

ive kinda had the same problem. My boyfriend had asked me to spit on his thing while i was going down on him, but i just couldint spit on him. i viewed it as really disrespectful. I did try, ended up not being able too, so i voiced my opinion about the matter and how strongly i felt about it, and he said i didint have to do it. that he'd find something else that both of us would enjoy doing.

Odds are cumming on the face isnt the only thing that turs your girl on. find out something else she likes that both of you can enjoy doing. ^^

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009):

You might want to do it, or the next man will... I don't find that as being "freaky" lol I'd imagine what you would think of me! If I'm with someone in a committed relationship..I'm all for whatever you want to do as long as its not Gross or doesn't involve anyone else... I'll be my man's freak anyday..! I gotta keep my man satisfied.. or else he might go to the next woman who will do the things I won't do. NOW if he wants something crazy or a 3 some or something... He can get to stepping.. I will be a freak for the man who wants me and me only..

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A male reader, Davethegamer United States +, writes (24 December 2009):

do it my gf refuses to even touch my dick with her hands, and im miserably sexually frusturated

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009):

i think the choice is yours. you shouldnt do anything you feel uncomfortable with...how ever i have learned to do some things and have grown to even enjoy some things that i initially was uncomfortable doing. so you shouldnt completely close the door....never is a long time. but no you shouldnt feel like you have to at this point. mal

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009):

Why should you do something you don't want to do? Tell her she should calm down a bit or just explain to her you don't want to and won't.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (22 December 2009):

person12345 agony auntIf you're uncomfortable with it, just say no. If she's asking for it it's not disrespectful, but if it's something you're uncomfortable with, just say no. It's that easy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009):

You have a valid point, "marieclaire", but it's not quite analagous: having unwelcome sperm on your face IS disrespectful, whereas obliging a lady who wants it isn't.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (22 December 2009):

It's your choice.

Both partners have to be happy doing something experimental.

You could always get her to explain WHY she wants you to do it. Some things sound really weird until they are explained in a certain way.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009):

If you're able, do it. Your mission in life should be to keep your woman happy. If that's what she wants, let her have it. Both barrels all at once.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009):

Do it!

It isn't disrespectful if it's requested, only if you do it knowing she doesn't like it.

And remember, male ejaculate is such a wonderful skin moisturiser - far better than any commercial product, so you will be doing her a big favour.......

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009):

let her have it lol

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A male reader, collins27023 United Kingdom +, writes (22 December 2009):

collins27023 agony auntif you don't want to do it then don't.

if she carries on begging talk to her, explain your self to her. tell her your not the sort of guy who would do things like that.

assert your self

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A female reader, Sara_philly United States +, writes (22 December 2009):

What you should do is....cum on her face.

She wants it. It's not like she's telling you to call her names and put her down while your banging.

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