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writes:I have a been going out with my girl friend for just a few days and we both like each other very much and we have falling in love. My girl friend thinks we need a cooling of period because we are rushing into things too soon.Is she right or is in an excuse for her to finish with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Cooling off after a couple of days?
Dude, time to let this one go. She aint interested.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 We would need more information. Maybe you do want things to happen too quickly. But, in my experience, whenever the words "space" "cool off" or "break" come out of a girl's mouth, it's a bad sign.
I wonder what she means by "cooling off". But, don't push it. Let her come to you if she wants to. If she won't show up in a reasonable time ("reasonable" does not mean "two days"), find yourself someone else.
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 I think it is too early in the relationship to have a "cooling off period"
if it has only been a few days, then it isnt love.
and she shouldnt already be wanting a break from you.
Im sorry to break it to you, but girls like that just want out of the relationship, so they make excuses like that.
dont worry, you will find someone who will love you and not need a break from you....
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (23 September 2007):
 It depends what your girlfriend means by a cooling off period.
Did your girlfriend asked you to take things easy like only see each other once a week or take a break completly?
There is nothing wrong with taking things slow for a while, you have only been going out for a few days. This is wise to make sure you are both compatible.
You do not say if you have known each other for long but
you say you are both in love.
Sounds like you need to talk to each other and clarify what both of you would like out of this relationship.
If your girlfriend wants a break already, perhaps she is not ready to commit, either way it is early days.
Talk openly with each other and go with a flow. Try not to have high expectations from your partner early in the relationship as it might scare her off.
A relationship can only grow if both parties are ready at the same level. At this early stage, the focus should be at getting to know one another as a couple, avoid any other pressures unecessarily.
Take care
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reader, GS +, writes (23 September 2007):
i think she is right if she thinks your movin to fast maybe you shud slow down abit and have a little break, maybe it is an excuse but you wont be able to change the way she feels but i think she is right, so just bare with her and respect her disisions good luck :) x
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