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writes:My and I have been dating for two years. I recently just had a baby and i can honestly say i have let myself go a little. Well the qustion is i was looking through my boyfriends cell phone and saw that he had meet up with an old "friend" and text her saying she looked "Hott"...Now is this appropriate for my boy to say cause i got hella pissed off at him? or am i just overreacting?Please help
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 i would be pissed off. you just had a baby, your probably running on like 2 hours sleep a night if your baby is anything like my niece, you have hormones all over the place, your not looking your best and you dont have time to do anything about it. and hes telling someone else how hot she looks. talk about kicking someone when they're down.
you just had his baby, he needs to grow up and show you some damn respect. Dont leave him over it because he hasnt cheated but he has been incredibly ignorant and just a general twat. he needs to be reminded of his responsibilities and commitments and to be a lot more sensitive to your feelings at this time.
good luck and congratulations on the new baby!
brooke
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (24 September 2007):
I think you had every right to be angry with your bf.
He may say it was harmless and it 'didnt mean anything' but if it wasnt such an important thing for him to say then why did he feel the need?
Although he said what he said, it doesnt mean hes cheating on you or will..it just means there is a lack of respect at the moment in your relationship.
Sure he is going to find other females attractive, thats only natrual and its OK, but telling them is pretty inappropiate.
Thats my view anyway. Some people will see it otherwise. What it comes down to is your values and beliefs. Thats what matters.
What was your bfs reaction when you confronted him about the text? Did he show any sign that he realised what he did was inapproiate? Or did he try to just mimimise what he did by saythings such as 'it doesnt mean aynthign, i dont like her anymore then a frined'? Or did he perhaps try to turn the problem around to you, accusing you of being insecure and saying you are overeacting? If he did anything like that I would be really starting to wonder whether or not hes the person you want to stay with...
But if he can show sings of regret, and can be honest and man enough to admit it, then you might be able to work this out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): i dont think hes worth it if hes going to that, i used to give my boyfreind blojobs all the time but he left me, no matter what i did wasnt good enough, i even swallowed.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 it could just be a harmless compliment, i wouldnt lose any sleep over it if i were you.
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