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*ashs1
writes:My girlfriend of 5 months wants a break. At first I was ok with it and I knew it meant hooking up with other people. Her best friend is a guy also an old friend of mine. She has been hurting so she said she probably wouldn't have sex with him cause it hurts but probably won't have sex with him. Anyway, I was talking to him after she texted me I love you good night. She still wants me around and to hold her and to kiss her. But he told me they were going to but because of bodily problems they didn't. She started it all...I do love her and I was trying to see if this break might help...Should I just end it or see what happens. Grant it I'm kinda of up and down about it. One second I'm ok about this situation then the next I kinda wanna give up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): I agree. A "break" usually means she wants to screw around with someone else. And by the time she asks you about it, she probably already has a specific guy(s) in mind if she hasn't done it with him already.
She may be selling you the image of her spending time alone and going to dinner & a movie with a few other guys to decide she doesn't like them after all. She may even be selling herself the same story. But don't bullshit yourself - she's got at least one guy in mind, and she wants permission to fuck him as soon as you greenlight the "break."
It PROBABLY means you should break it off with her. It MIGHT work to take this "break" but I really doubt it. (The break will work fine. The rematch with her afterwards will not.)
At the very least, understand this - she's fucking others as soon as she's allowed. DO NOT sit around at home "honoring your relationship" and saying you're "not ready" to mess around with a new girl yet. This is EXACTLY what she is intending to do, and I don't mean after she's been seeing him for a month or two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): whenever you hear the word "break" or "space" from a girls mouth it usually means She wants to cheat on you with your permission. Dont kid yourself if you think she's doing it for your own good. She is selfish because she wants to sleep with other guys, without having a guilty conscience. She wants to look at what her options are. very very selfish woman. This a clear example of an immature woman who simply doesn't know what she wants/
I'm 29 and one thing I've learned from being in relationships is that women are very sneaky whenever they want something. and I suggest my young friend, you stay away and find another gal.
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reader, vashs1 +, writes (12 June 2009):
vashs1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI decided she doesn't love me. She must not if after being on a break for less than 6 hours decides to have sex with her friend. The point of the break wasn't space from me. It may have been a little of spending time with her friends but the main objective was to have me as emotional comfort and her fuck buddy and just that. I'm not going to let myself get dragged through the dirt like that. I consider myself a good guy, and I deserve better it just took me too long to realize it. Her and I are better off friends maybe someday if she's at a different point in life, and this could all just be a phase. But to have the audacity to tell me she loves me and then find out from her friend that they were going to have sex but can still tell me she loves me...maybe that's why she said it over text because she couldn't actually say it. Thank you for the response I was going to follow my heart and see what happens but she proved to me last night what this all really is. I'm young and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Might I add she was my first "love"
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 well hun what do you feel is best for you.
if you feel you think the break will help you guys then fair enough but if you think it won't and you can't handle it then tell her you want out.
i hope this helps.
good luck
x x x
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