A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so lately these past three days my "friend"(only calls when she has a problem or isn't stuck up her man's ass) been calling me crying or texting me saying "ohh my bf is so mean he makes me cry he calls me a bitch etc" but the dumb bitch always gets back together with him! She called me today again and was like "oh he made me cry because he....., okay i got to go now bye" its like wtf do i care? Its really starting to piss me off. If she's that miserable leave the asshole ya know? And i told her this so many times. And also she's really sensitive so she cries like REALLY easy, but I dont want her to call me anymore, like my bf talks to me how her bf talks too her, the difference is i stick up for myself not cry in a corner like a little bitch! ugh!!! I'm just pissed right now, I'm sorry bout my language, she jus called me like 20min saying oh he was mean to me but were good now. Seriously im SICK of her shit, should i just tell her off and be like Misery loves company so f*** off? or jus keep taking her shit? Cuz litteraly if she calls me again this week im gonna spaz bad.
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, pebble  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 This sounds so much like the girl I knew, it's unreal.She'd say thhinks like "no cares if I get mugged/stabbed/raped/hit by cars on the way home, if they did I wouldn't be walking home alone" and it's like 6pm, still light and she lived 10 minutes away. lmaoShe didn't want to walk to her place alone, but didn't care that if I went with her, I'd be walking back alone.Stay strong :)Maybe suggest her some counselling. She will refuse completely of course and get angry but when she does finally realise what a state she is (she will at some point), the idea will be in her head and she'll know that you were right.good luck
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes so last night, her bf breaks up with her cuz his mom said to? so she comes to me crying again...and drunk outta her mind, like seriously last night she was TERRIBLE!! I was so annoyed cuz i was trying to be there for her but i was seriously ready to punch her to knock her out, than she ends up leaving in the middle of the night saying idc if i get raped or not, i was like watever get the fuck out, im not talking to her anymore, i dont want to get back into the whole "OH im sad so i hafta drink" scene. She needs help and its not sumthin i major in.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a bunch for all the comments! It helped me think alot of things through :). But yea well see how this next week goes or couples of days cuz shes been calling me everyday so far. Well see about today, if she calls I'll ignore it, she texts ill try and not to spaz out on her....try.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): As she's so sensitive try and find a time when you are not angry to bring the subject up. Tell her that you are getting angry that she is being a victim and ask her why she puts up with it. Also that you don't know what else to suggest (if you don't). Sometimes people need to be told!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): What to do...
1. talk about to other people. like me- i completely agree im like omg you stupid person just dump them dont take them back cant you see how pathetic your being dont just let them do that to you! and stop crying to me all the time its just annoying rarar... will make you feel better and know you are not alone...
2. when your cool... just tell her straight and in the nicest/most polite way possible if you can- that she complains to you and that she repeats her mistakes and that its unfair and what if you were going on like that to her and then like bye. until the next time you had a problem- get her to see it frm your point of view
3. dont make the same mistakes- take your own advice- remmeber it next time if you ever get treated bad by a bf... and yeah
:)
...............................
A
female
reader, pebble +, writes (12 June 2009):
I had a friend like this. In the end I had to cut all contact with her. She would come to me, cry about him and then go back to him and be fine without even confronting him about what he did wrong.
It drove me insane and eventually I ended up hating her for being so stupid and for using me. And she didn't even think she was using me, because she was so wrapped up in her 'perfect' boyfriend and her pathetic relationship. She cut contact with lots of our other friends because of him. But still could not see it.
Tell her, be the mature one, say you're not going to be used any longer and if she's not going to anything about her problems apart from complaining to you then to not tell you about them in the first place. Or even better, actually sort them out herself instead of ignoring them.
And if you have to cut contact with her then do it.
Good luck.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Maybe you could try and avoid her calls for a while, until you feel a bit calmer. Otherwise, you might say something to her out of frustration, then regret it later. So maybe you need a break from her.
But if you are finding her intolerable, then maybe you two aren't suited as friends. It's hard to say. Have things always been like this between you, or is this a recent thing? If things used to be good, then something is clearly bothering her, probably her boyfriend by the sound of it.
It is frustrating to be in this position, I'm sure you must feel like just yelling at her to dump him, or stand up for herself. But different people have different ways of coping, and maybe she just isn't the kind of person to be able to do that.
I do feel for her, but it is also not fair on you. You say that she only contacts you to talk about her problems, and then doesn't want to know anymore. Until the next drama. That's not very fair, is it? If you want to try and salvage the friendship, then maybe you could try and meet with her and discuss this. Try and tell her how you are feeling.
But if this continues to get to you so much, then I think it might be better for both of you (and your blood pressure!) if you had less to do with each other.
Good luck, I hope something gets sorted. x
...............................
|
