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writes: i love my girlfriend more than i love life and now she has asked for a relationship break, i fear this is the end of us, and its killing me, i know for certain i cant live without her, how do i convince her to return to me and at the same time ensure she is happy too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006): you could just tell here that you want to stay together, but at the same time you will give her as much space as possible that she needs. And to make sure shes happy ask her questions on what she would like to be happy and is there anything that would make the relationship better.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 Give her the break that she asks for. If you love her like you say you do then you would want to see her happy. If this makes her happy then you must give her that. Love is give and take and I think that dealing with her issues is her way of telling you that you may also have some to work through. So don't concentrate on her leaving concentrate on you improving for her and especially for yourself. Trust me there is life after a break. The thing is don't let this thing consume you. I know easier said than done but it can be done. I had to do it and it still stings a little 7 months later. Give her a break and you take one also. Be strong and Good Luck.
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reader, camille  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 Firstly don't think I am being uncaring or not understanding. You say you love her "more than you love life", many people say such huge, dramatic statements such as this and you "can't live without" her etc but you CAN live without her, you just don't want to. You should maybe find other things in your life that you love and like doing, as at the moment it sounds like you are in an unhealthy situation of your world revolving around hers. Maybe that's the problem? There's nothing wrong with loving someone enormously but perhaps your girlfriend feels suffocated because of such intense feelings. Maybe you could also benefit from a break to find out why you feel this need so greatly. Think about how your life would be without her and work on some coping strategies. If she comes back, try to learn how to love her but have your own life too and let her have hers. Maybe this is something you could talk to her about as I may be way off mark here....
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