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writes:My girlfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago but still talked, emailed back and forth, and hung out occasionaly. The breakup seemed more like a break as noone cheated or ripped anyones heart out and we just needed some space. I then told her that I was in love with her and then in a roundabout way told me she hates me and to never contact her again. What should I think. Thanks
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reader, jijo varghese  +, writes (4 August 2011):
hi , Had read ur problem, was able to understand ur feelings . Did u both had any fight before ur broke up? did u ever told her that u cannot marry her or ever tried to avoide her? if so its very difficult to get back to the old life,do u feel she is having any affair with someone? if u feel she doesnt hav anything like that , dont worry things r gonnu be good soon. and u should talk to her by saying u r missing her very much , tel her u cant live with out u. try to make understand her ur feelings. And al this should happen this only if she doesnt hav someone else . And dont worry if she hav someone , This world is too wide ther is some one who can love u more than she loved u . god would hav planned something else for u. to give u some thing more . And dont feel bad that she left yo .if she cannot understand u let her go away . Dont think this always engage in some other work dont be lonly . hang out with friends , enjoy ur work. Make ur mind in a setup that she is too bad , even if she is gud, tell ur mind to create a tot like that ,i cannot say more cos , am not wel knowledged about ur relationship. pls write to me , with a detailed .so that i can help u in some other way too. thangs for sharing ur problem, gudluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): How do you tell someone in a roundabout way ....you hate them? I'm wondering and I could be seeing this in the wrong way ...but, did you misread her slow progression of disconnecting from you,as something worse than what it really is? Were you hurt over this initial break up? Was she concerned about your feelings of rejection and pain? Was she was trying to lessen the blow by being nice and staying in touch? If so, a lot of females do this very thing when in fact they shouldn't. All breakups should be done as swiftly and cleanly as possible...no further contact. So, to answer you question, when someone tells you she 'hates' you, even in a roundabout way...there is really nothing you can do about it, is there? You need to heal and recover. You simply have no choice but to leave her alone and move on. Being in her face and trying to ontact her, could land you in hot water. It could make her very angry with you. Face your feelings of hurt, get a good support system behind you and try hard to carry on. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): You mentioned "in aroundabout way"; is it possible that there can be some misunderstanding between what she said(meant) and how you understood (interpret) it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I agree Minelisse,
If nobody cheated and you both agreed, why does she now hate you, what have you done?
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 There is something more to this story that you are either unaware or decided not to tell!! So... what else?
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