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writes: I recently became interested in a woman. We were co-workers with a company. Last year, I transferred to a different division. After my transfer, the two of us began serving together on a advisory board.I began to develop feelings for her. It grew more intense over time. Back in the spring, she did something that I was impressed with. I called her up and told her that I was impressed. She told me I was very thoughtful. She seemed more friendlier than usual the next few meetings.She left her job and before she left she suggested that we get togetherThree weeks ago I called her at her new employer. Conversation was friendly. I asked her if she wanted together after work. She said yes. She told me one night of the week is bad. She asked me what night was good. I responded. She told me she would get back to me. She has not responded.My friends think I should been more firm with picking out a particular day of the week.But I sense mixed signals coming from her.Feedback
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): Sorry to be brutal here but she's not interested, dear. I would have second thoughts about a girl who cannot get back to you after she says she will. Being overly busy is not an excuse. When a woman wants to date a man, nothing would've stopped her from calling you back. Don't worry about it..just move on. Pick women who can be straightforward and hinest with you, from now on. Expect nothing less. Take care
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (14 December 2005):
I agree with the anonymous reader. There are a couple of possible outcomes to this dilemma- 1) She has genuinely forgotten your suggestion of you two meeting through being busy etc.
2) She simply isn't interested in pursuing a relationship.
Either way, you need to know, so speak to her directly again, but do not put pressure on her to reply quickly. If she doesn't reply within say, a week, you can assume that she isn't interested in a relationship. You were incredibly complimentary about her actions in a work situation and she responded with appropriate gratitude and politeness. This does not necessarily indicate that she has romantic feelings towards you however.
If she returns your calls within a few days she is potentially interested. If she fails to, from a woman's point of view I would consider her to be uninterested in dating.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): I'd say call her a couple more times, ask about going out, and if she keeps sending you mixed signals, don't worry about her anymore. Women giving mixed signals is a sign of stringy cheese... (I should know, being one myself :-P)
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