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male
age
41-50,
*orontoGuy
writes:I am in a long distance relationship that is fairly new (4 months). I really care about her and she has reciprocated these feelings. Things were going great up until a few weeks ago when we hit some bumps in the road - dealing with the distance and how fast things were moving. I think we've both kind of pulled back to take a deep breath. I know we both care about each other, but i am beginning to worry how committed she is to this relationship.I never considered myself the jealous type, but there are a few things that she has said (all along) that worry me. She asked me (kind of jokingly) if i would be mad if she hooked up with another woman. I have told her that i find 2 women together to be very exciting, but I feel that seeing the person i love getting satisfied by someone else would make me feel wierd. She confessed that as much as men turn her on, nothing is hotter than the soft kiss from another girl. This bothered me and something im having a hard time putting out of my mind. I brought it up and told her it would bother me to see her kissing another girl - even if she was doing it to turn me on or whatever. I asked her how she would feel to see me kiss another woman. She said its not the same thing and that there is no chance she would end up loving the other woman but I could. I feel its the exact same scenario. I do find it sexually exciting, but beyond that i think it would bother me. I told her this.Our long distance relationship has been a bit more emotionally distant lately - due to other reasons - her busy schedule with work and school. We used to talk about sex on the phone a few times a week. But we havent discussed it since I last saw her 3 weeks ago. Considering how early it is in our relationship, im worried now that she isnt attracted to me anymore. I wonder if she wants something else. I just cant get my head around the fact that she would want to make out - or do more - with another person. She since has told me she was "just talking" about it and that she wasnt seriously considering doing it. I have to trust her, but part of me cant forget what she has said. What am I to think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): I think 4 months is not enough time to just get in a relationship and then go long distance with it. I guess it depends how long you have known her as a friend?!?! I am actually in a long distant relationship with my women and We were together for a year before it went long distant. I think she's curious and wants to figure out what she wants in a person and or if shes young then Experimentation is definitely in her mind. GOOD LUCK
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reader, answers4u  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 HI
from a female prospective i don't think your girfrinf is doing this to hurt u or anything but more to satisfy u. Men normally don't have problem and she is trying to show u wat she can do but if she carries on saying tell her u fell not comformable with that and u rather have her to yourself that mind sound possesive but most women like posseive guys.Talk to her
Hope it works out for u and inform me of wat happens
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