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writes:hey I havent been on in a long time and I need some advice... Ok so I just got out of technical training for the air force I came home to hang out with family and friends and one of my closest female friends tells me after I leave her house for the last time that she loves me (more then friends she made that quite clear) and that she should have kissed me before I left and I have wanted to be with her for the longest time now but cause of my enlistment and me being so far from home I dont know whether it would be a good idea to even try or if its a better idea to let it be a friendship? Any help would be awesome! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2013): I understand how you must feel. I appreciate your service to your country. You are a remarkable and intelligent young man.I know the odds are heavily against young people who choose to carry on a long-distance relationship. The problem is, people get lonely. Waiting to see someone living miles and miles away; takes a toll on the patience.It's very stressful not being able to be with someone you care about because of distance.In your case, she wanted to be married and she is looking for someone to support her. You actually ran into a stroke of luck; because she would have carried on another relationship behind your back while you were away. You deserve to be free and able to enjoy being young and single.You will meet other women and you'll date. Just don't be too quick to settle into a relationship, before you know more about the girl and what her intentions are. Some just want to be married, and they don't care who the guy is. You escaped a potentially bad situation. The guy isn't a dirt-bag, he's a fool who doesn't know what he's getting himself into. She made you think she cared about you, and probably had him waiting on the side. Don't feel hurt. You dodged a bullet. Go out and celebrate.
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reader, sparty the spartan +, writes (11 June 2013):
sparty the spartan is verified as being by the original poster of the question well I would like to thank you again I found out today that she has no gotten engaged to some dirt bag from a couple towns over and now im kinda hurt but I guess this means to go out and have fun. thank you sir!
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reader, sparty the spartan +, writes (3 June 2013):
sparty the spartan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you sir, we have known eachother since we were little kids so getting to know her isnt the problem heck for most of the time I was in the friend zone haha. the biggest thing now is the distance and me probably gettin deployed soon. so I can understand the distance will be a huge problem so I suppose it will be best to be just friends till I get back. thank you again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): If you're both under 20 years old, it might be a little rough carrying on a long-distance relationship. People get lonely and it's really not fair to each other to spend most of your time waiting to be together. You can give it a try and see how things workout; but for the most part, it'll be text messages, phone calls, or Skype. If you were already together the odds would be more in your favor. This is the start of a relationship. Things get kind of risky. Your buddies are going to drag you out on weekends and that means you'll meet other girls. She'll just be home waiting for your contact; and wondering what you're doing.If you're satisfied with those arrangements, go for it. I think people should be able to see each other, touch, and get to know each other on a more personal basis. Carrying on a relationship through mobile devices isn't enough for me. Most people need affection. That includes kissing, hugging, holding hands, and making love. If you can do without it;see how it goes.
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