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30-35,
anonymous
writes:OK my girlfriend and i have been dating for 7 months!!! its great, we have talked about sex and almost had sex but she freaks out, her ex and her did and it ended up disastrous, i dont press the issue cause i really do love her but she tells me she wants sex and then freaks when we get there so i need to know what to do or how to get her loosened up!!! PLEASE HELP!!! **Desperado**
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reader, shannon4747  +, writes (2 January 2009):
ok.... well the most important thing is the word "ex"
this is what she is scared of u becoming.... she loves you... possibly too much which makes her worry that if you have sex... you will be one of her ex's. it really scares her.
you need to re-assure her that everything will be ok... and that you wont let it ruin you. you've been together for 7 months without doing it. maybe the best thing to do is let her make the first move when she feels comfortable.
just stick to oral and foreplay.... before taking on the big "S.e.x."
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): I would say drink a little alcohol ahead of time but you are under age. So I am not sure what disaster occured during sex the first time. Did it hurt her? If it did you should go to the store pick up some condoms and some lubrication.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Just take it easy. Dont pressure her. The moment she says she wants to stop STOP. You jsut have to let her tell you how much she wants or how far she wants it to go. You say you love her so you must respect that she may be frightened of sex. Just take it slow. You can ask her at different intervals if she is okay or wants to stop. If she says to keep going then do. BUT if she asks for you to stop you have to stop. Just hold her awhile. She isnt comfortable yet with having sex you just need to help her get comfortable. Try talking about it and getting definate boundaries set up.
Good Luck
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