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writes:Can anyone tell me why people go to dating sites as single if they don't want to meet anyone? Over almost 2 years me and my partner have had several upsets due to her going on date and flirt sites. No matter what is said the truth is i am always coming across traces of things.Even telephone numbers of guys. She never admits, but no matter what it always shows itself up again and again. Her personality is jealous,she doesn't hide it. Yet,if anything is asked,she calls it abuse or having a go at her or i shouldn't be so suspicious and learn to trust,yet,despite her own mistrust of me she has never found anything.She says there should be no secrets yet gets angry if i stumble across anything.She swears undying love so why does she do this? I now have heard so many lies and inconsistent stories that i have no trust whatsoever. She does this date and flirt thing,exchanges phone numbers,yet i cant even mention or look at any girl through dread of her anger. I am finding my feelings for her are not as strong as they was and i think she knows this.Could it be addiction? I have seen cybersex in front of my face yet she stands there and says its nothing to do with her. Am i being unreasonable and untrusting? or is it time to make a clean break?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Don't you just hate double standards?If she is declaring her undying love for you, she has a funny way of showing it. I think you should knock this thing about her flirting, cybersex and going on dating sites once and for all. She is taking you for a complete mug and you are in a way letting her get away with it.If she refuses to stop going on these sites, I would dump her pronto and find a woman who is willing to commit to you 100%. My guess is, that she has probably cheated on you anyway. So be a man and stand up and be counted.Dusky xxx
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reader, maria14r  +, writes (24 January 2008):
you know one of your comments helped me. its telling you to ask yourself "are you better off without her." truth is i think i'm better off without my baby's dad. i think that if she's doing all of this is because she wants to try different things but she also wants to stay with you but you need to show her that she cant have both. if your unhappy leave her. dont stay just to make yourself mor miserable for the things she does.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 January 2008):
 You are not being unreasonable and you don't sound very happy in your relationship either. I'd probably bail but it's your decision. Ask yourself THE QUESTION...are you better off with her or without her?
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