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writes:Hi DearCupid.Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months now and its finaly official.Problem is we started out great going over to eachothers place ect ect.Now everytime i put an idea forward to go over to her's she says yea no probs the day before but when the time comes for me to go over i get a message like ill be over soon and we'll go for a drive ect ect or we'll just sit out the front talking.I just want some quality time alone with her she seems to be turning me away.Any idea whats going on. Reply to this Question
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reader, woodstock +, writes (26 November 2007):
woodstock is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, talked to her and its her father.
She doesn't want to make things worse at home.
Anyways guys and gals, its all sorted
Thanks heaps
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reader, happytochat +, writes (23 November 2007):
I could think of millions of possibilities of why she is acting like this...but in the end you still won't know whats going on, thats why I think its important you talk to her. Like someone else suggested, gently raise the issue with her. Dont attackt her. Just say lately you feel like she doesnt want you in her house and you are wondering if this is right, and if so, why? Give her examples of why you feel lke this, such as, she makes excuses at the last min to not be at her house etc...thatway she can explain each situation that made you doubt her and her feelings.
goodluck, remember communication is the key to any issue.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 November 2007):
One you should quickly learn about women is that they are not easy to understand all year.They may confuse you at times but the more they mature,the more easier to understand.Ofcourse you have to spend more time with her to understand her.However,there's no doubt she's not telling you something.First try make her more comfortable with you and she may confide in you but you need to be aggressive in finding out.Don't be quick to think she's cheating or trying to reject you.Be gentle and understanding.Most women love an understanding,patient and caring man.It's possible she may have problems at her place she doesn't want to introduce into your life or her place is not the perfect place to spend quality time with her.Come up with your own ideas of where you can spend such quality time.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): You're trying too hard. She knows you want a piece, and she wants to see if you'll stay around if you don't get a piece. Give her a SLIGHT cold shoulder. No kissing, just a hug to say Hi. Don't try to touch her, or instigate anything. In a week or two, she'll start to wonder why you don't want her. Are you seeing someone else? Did she screw up? She'll come begging for it to you. Then, go ahead. She'll never do this test again. Trust me, I did this when I was young and it worked. Throughout my life I've done it again and again (at least 8 or 9 times) and it works. The week or two sacrifice will get you in the door 7 days a week later.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 It's hard to tell really, it could be any number of things, one possibility is that now everything is official she is having some commitment issues? Maybe she thinks that if you go into her home it will lead somewhere she is shy of... Is there any reason you can think of that she wouldnt be allowed to have you in her home? Is it possible shes having issues with her family (maybe they dont approve of the relationship). It seems that the main issue is she doesnt want you in her home and there could be numerous reasons for that, i think you need to talk to her, raise it gently and try to get to the bottom of whats going on and not dash off and draw your own conclusions from her behaviour. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): Hi,
You need to talk with her to find out what has been bothering her & why you dont spend any time together romanticly anymore there probably is a simple explanation.
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