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writes:Recently, my girlfriend started behaving really cold, distant and unaffectionate. She says I haven't done anything wrong, she just gets this way when she's about due on. I know she can "run cold" when this happens, but I've never experienced her so withdrawn. We still talk, but she says she just feels angry all the time, loses sex drive, doesn't want to be touched or talked to, and doesn't want anyone. A month ago, she wrote a letter that was so loving, but she says that that's not how she's been feeling these days. She was fine wednesday, last week! I think she still cares for me, and I asked if she was trying to break up with me. She says she's worried about how this is affecting me, and that I'll have too much problem with her over the fact she gets like this, but we're not breaking up, yet. We've been together 8 months, so it's not like a haven't experienced this before, but not so badly. If this is hormonal, then I can deal better, if I can understand it. I can give her time and space, but how long and how much? I don't want to pester her and have her thinking even more negatively about me. I know PMT affects women differently, but how much influence does it have over a woman's emotional frame of mind? When it's over, do all those negative thoughts just end, or could she maintain this disaffection for me after it's not so bad?
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reader, arman  +, writes (23 April 2009):
But getting in a fight during this time?? I've made the mistake of doing this twice because of my insecurities....both times she broke up with me...the first time taking me back after a week...the second..? I don't know yet, but I'm hoping like crazy she does! I just can't figure out how someone can go from "I love you soo freakin' much" to not being sure how they feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): hi, im havng the same problem. it happens every month and i never understand. this time is worse than ever and theres nothing i can do. it isnt fair and my girlfriend usually blames our relationship for the mood. i wish girls knew how much this upsets us.
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reader, JustAskJen +, writes (28 September 2007):
 your girlfriend sounds like me! i dont wanna be near anyone when i am due on or infact on. my partner is understanding so i am lucky. you just need to give her a couple of day, let her know that you are there when she needs you and give her plenty of love. she may be slightly depressed but i am no doctor. speak to her about how exactly she feels and ask if she thinks she might need to go and see a doctor, either way, i personally dont think there is too much to worry about, love, cuddles, a bath and a cuppa usually solves most problems, just stick at it, i think you are doing a great job!
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