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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 9 months, she is my first everything, meaning that she was my first first kiss, my first girlfriend, and my first sex partner. I am currently 19 years old, by the way. To be honest, we have made love so many times that I can't even take a guess on the exact number. The very first time we did it was when we were on my college apartment, and she started kissing me, and then more passionately and then even more passionately, until I asked her if she wanted to try sex. She said yes (Duh! She was kinda waiting for me to ask), and so I went on to put a condom. (I still support safe sex)That was 1 month after I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend.*8 months later*We're in my apartment, laying in bed, she's usually all the time on my laptop checking her myspace or watching stuff at youtube, which leaves me alone to my thoughts. That usually leads me to getting, umm excuse the word, horny. Or, sometimes I just get a boner out of nowhere without even thinking about sex. So, usually I just try to turn her on too by stroking her hair, giving her light massages on her back, very very light tickling on her tummy, and kisses on her neck. I never jump directly into grabbing her breasts on stuff like that, I really respect her a lot and I wouldn't do that just like that. Lately, she's been saying no to me a lot when I ask for sex. I really can't avoid getting turned on, I love her so much and I'm attracted so much to her that just by looking at her EYES! I get extremely turned on. She's now always asking me if that's all I can think about, sex. I tell her no, obviously, because it's not true, it truly isn't. I've tried explaining to her that men's body and mind works differently than women, that sometimes our way to express our love is by making love, sexually, and that women often just express it with caresses and kisses. But it won't do much.I don't know if I should just back off, suppress my sexual desires, and maybe even go back to masturbating on my own. After all that's way better than looking out for another girl that will please me as I want to be pleased. That's something I would NEVER EVER do, it would be the grossest thing I could do, and I respect and LOVE my girlfriend too much to even consider cheating on her. So I ask you, Agony Aunts, (and Uncles) what should I do? Do I just back off?*Off Topic*The other day she asked me:"Baby, why can't you like reggaeton (growing genre similar to rap in Puerto Rico) more than rock? I mean, you listen to that Metallica band way too much, it's driving me crazy! And you're always playing their songs on the guitar!"It's not fair! She now expects me to change what I like! Do you know what I wanted to ask her back? I wanted so much to tell her: "Why can't you go down on me more often? Or make love to me more often? I mean, you're always saying no to me. You always say you won't go down on me because it's gross. I never try to change you on that. Why do I have stop liking the music I like? Will it make you love me more? I don't think so!" I swear all that came to my mind in just a fraction of seconds, I had it all ready in my mind, but I didn't say it because I don't want to ruin the relationship, but it really really hurt me.
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reader, merlyn846  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Just give her some space maybe you guys have been doing it too much..... Dejala tranquila por un tiempo... sometimes after too much sex it just hurts down there and I'm a girl I know what I'm talking about... and girls are more emotional we want to feel the love and sex isn't everything in a relationship try being more romantic with her without expecting to get sex from her... just be romantic because you love her... when she's ready to have sex she will let you know.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (27 April 2010):
 lol think she just wants to have some music she can listen to with you obviously she doesnt like mettalica i would say you dont have to change what you like but theres no harm in trying something new if you love her as much as you say you do why not rite. just ask her whats a good reggae tone song even if you dont like it indulge her.
but i have to agree its way better then mettalica that loud awful stuff okok sorry.
any way as for the to mutch sex thing well if PR i can see your problem theres some of the most gorgeous women on the planet with honey brown tans and tropical wind in their hair. your a lucky guy and i dont blame i would say have sex with your gf till it falls off but hey i guess she needs a break so give her one if you dont want to get another gf then go solo for awhile until she ask for it.. it could be awhile though but it will be worth it to have her beg hopefully in spanish cuse thats just hot
good luck kid im so glad i dont need a passport to go to PR
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