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writes:I'm a 19 year old male who has fallen into a very well known hole. My best friend is a girl, and its nothing new, but lately my 'more than friends' feelings have been really stressing me out. We originally met through another close friend of mine whom she dated. Pretty much right away I got the butterflies and such. Their relationship wasn't long, and wasn't very serious, and their break up did not effect how well we got along. Since then she has become my closest friend. We've been there for each other through hard times, and have developed somewhat of a dependency on each other. When a relationship of mine ended partly due to her, it didn't take more than a couple weeks for me to spill my guts to her on how I felt about her. Obviously, she did not return the feelings or I would not be posting here. :PThough I'm well aware she doesn't have feelings for me, I can't shake the feeling that we would be so well together. She doesn't know what she wants in a guy, while I have found she has nearly everything I could want. It seems like were already dating, except the physical side of things to me. I'm often annoyed with people because everyone who sees how we act together assumes we're dating. We often wrestle and have horse play like that, sit close to each other on a couch, I've given her an innocent massage a couple times, once she fell a sleep while we watched a movie during which she was using my lap asa pillow. 8 or so months ago I know she also remarked to a mutual friend that she thought I was cute. I confronted her on that and she just said she says everyone is cute. Still, is it just me or does it seem like we could be more? We have all the makings of a couple except I can't hold her hand or kiss her. That's what I think anyways. Does it sound like she's potentionally interested? Or am I just obsessing? :/
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reader, \m/J.D\m/  +, writes (10 August 2009):
 hmmm, sounds like theres a possibility that SHE is confused, maybe she isnt ready for that 'settling down' relationship yet, maybe she doesnt want to ruin the amazing friendship you have. try talking to her again, explain completely how you feel, you said only 2 weeks after your split with your ex you told her about your feelings for her, she may have assumed rebound! you never kno. from what you have said about the way she acts with you i would defo say shes into you, i would not spend my time wresting or sleeping on my best girl or boy mate unless i was into them, and no one else i kno would either as far as i can see all the makings of a great relationship are there! :) just remember that when you talk to her, reassure her your friendship will only grow more intense as you are already so close, all thats missing is the intimate part what is there to loose? i only see gain! good luck hun and i want an update! =P x
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