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writes:Please help me i just want to die.My girlfriend that im mad about just broke it off between us. she says she just needs to find out what she really wants, but she doesn't know. she doesn't know if she wants to be in a relationship but she still loves me? she says she loves me and im so special to her but she just needs time. i don't know what to do please i can't stop this overwelming feeling of sadness. i love her so much and dont know how i can live without her!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): "I'm not stopping you from anything Aaron - I'm nothing in your life. If you don't want to give me time fine! I'm not going on with this relationship" she sent me this sms after I pushed her. Can things be fixed at this stage?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I can only give you the same advice as before. Nothing has really changed.
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reader, Purple_Haze +, writes (4 July 2007):
Purple_Haze is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh she's also told me that she does love me but she's not sure if she's in love anymore........... :(
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reader, Purple_Haze +, writes (4 July 2007):
Purple_Haze is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all so much for the help, i really appreciate it. well what's happened is on monday night at like 1 an the morning she wanted to speak to me. so i called. she was crying and saying how confused she was about everything in her life. so what i did was what i thought was the right thing to do, i was there for her. i tried to keep the me and her situation out of it as much as possible and just told her how amazing she is and how she can pull herself through anything. she said thanks and she loves me. i tried to speak to her again on tues and got a bit mad and said im just wasting my time(bad move). now we just aren't speaking much like today she sent me a msg saying what now u just not talking to me and i said i am and pretended like i was great and was kinda moving on, my idea is that if i do that she'll come back..............
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): how you hanging in there?
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reader, Anxiety  +, writes (2 July 2007):
wow this is really going around. I am in the same situation. I am supposed to move in with my boyfriend in December and he just told me almost a month ago that he needs more time. I have have been toghter for three years. It really really sucks. I wish i had an answer for you and for me.... we communicated by e-mail and phone once in a while and dman it feels good to talk to him but it hurts soo much too. I am so in love and i am ready to marry him. I have come to realzie that what he wants is to chase me, gosh darn it... you already have me.... why the whole chase thing now. I have been depressed over about a month now and it still sucks, it gets a little better, but it really sucks. We had dinner this weekend and had a nice time untill the end when i asked where we stood and he said he still needs more time, its only been 3.5 weeks. He told me that he loves me and wants to be with me but just wants to be able to make the choice and not just have it handed to him..I really dont understand you boys.. But i have investested so much that i am willing to stick it out a little longer. I am tryng my hardest not to call or e-mail so that he realizes how much he misses me but it is really hard. We have been bestfriends for over 9 years, so i can not jut cut all communication.. I know just how you feel and wish i had an answer for us... we just need to hand in there an realzie that we are great people and if they do not realize that then, hey its there loss.. (easier said then done right? =) if you want to talk e-mail, maybe we can help each other out, i can give you the girls view and you give me the boys view... good luck i wish you the best and hope it ends real soon for you and I.. =)
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (2 July 2007):
You see?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): Hey,My heart goes out out to you, i'm in exactly the same situation right now, my girl suddenly broke it off with me last week saying she needed space and isnt sure what she wants - but still loves me - sound familiar! I dont know what to do with myself either. I miss her so much. But from speaking to people it sounds as if we just got to hang in there and wait for it to sort itself out, i just want to grab the phone and ring my girl right now its killing me. I really empathize with you, like me you've probably got a million questions you want to ask her but i think its best we let them contact us first or at least wait week or so, let the storm pass sorta thing. Just letting you know that you are'nt alone in how you feel right now.Once again my heart goes out to you.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (2 July 2007):
We've all been there. If she's not sure whether she loves you, well, let her go. Give her time to make her mind up. No matter how bad this seems to you, or much it hurts, DON'T contact her; that will make things worse. If she loves you, she will find this out herself and she will come your way. Don't be pushy.I hate to be the killjoy, but you can live without her. What's more, you must. I know this is very difficult to do, but set a time limit for her to make her mind up. How long that period of time needs to be, only you know. But, if she doesn't come your way in, say, three months, well, you'll know that will be time to move on.Hear my words: DON'T contact her if she won't contact you.I'm with you.
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