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writes:i never thought id be doing this but here i am. Im in a 2nd marrage and have been for 10 years. No bio children but 5 between us, mine are 25 to 30. my wife recently told me she's had enough, hates me, and i dont give anything back while she give it all (she is a wonderful person) and i probably am not always outwardly grateful.id do anything for her but when we argue she always says i have no empathy, withdraw, and eventually argue. i try and talk to her but she replies that i never view anything from any vantage but my own. i do withdraw when i feel like i am being attacked by her which is often and it seems like a vicious cycle. her reaction often seems over the top, "i hate you, i want out, i cant deal with you, i need to take care of me." Im at a loss and dont know what i should do first. Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (26 November 2012):
 I think you should have marriage counselling to help you communicate better with her. There is always room for improvement and if she is actively telling you what she wants and you cannot respond, perhaps you need help to learn how to handle her demands more effectively.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 November 2012):
 Do you think you might have aspergers? People with that condition often have trouble with feeling empathy and showing emotions even when they care deeply for someone. Maybe you should get checked out for it by a trained professional and suggest couples counseling for the two of you.
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