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writes:Is this considered cheating? Please help me on this. So our relationship has been turbulent for quite some time now, and we've been on and off, so we were looking for a place to live when we were I guess on a break, so she said we were, but I thought we were still together being that we're looking for places to live, and I just now found out that during that looking for a place to live stage, she was dating another man, of which she was having sex with whenever we fought and I guess will break up, but every time I'll contact her she'll answer me, and we'll talk about reconciliation, then when we would fight, and lose touch, she'll go on dates and have sex with this other man.. She told me it wasn't cheating because every time we fought she thought we would never speak again after that, but that all along she wanted to be with me, but that supposedly I was making that impossible.... Please help, your advice will be GREATLY appreciated.. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): You know it is cheating. She's just using a pathetic excuse to excuse her behaviour.
The fact of the matter is she went off and slept with another any time you had problems so even when you were together she was in contact with him. That's cheating.
Why do you even bother with this girl? She's bad news and your relationship obviously doesn't work if you are fighting and breaking up all the time. So why do you keep trying? Even though she's also been dating another guy? She obviously doesn't love you enough to just be with you and if she's sleeping with this guy just to hurt you, then my god dude, what the hell are you doing still talking to this mess of a woman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Thats utter rubbish.Yes its cheating because you guys didnt officially break up.She is just making up excuses to justify what she did and its something thats already been on her mind for a long time and this person has been in the picture for a while now,she was just waiting for the right time to do it.This 'break' was the perfect excuse and opportunity to do it.You werent number 1 in her life.She wants her bread buttered both sides.Do you want to marry this woman?I hope not.She doesnt love you.Take no prisoners.Dump her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): It sounds like she is cheating and hiding behind a technicality. She used the old "We just have different ideas of what it means to be on a break" trick.
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