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She says break up with me, then says don't break up with me

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Question - (19 October 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 20 October 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I need some help, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years she means the world to me. We've been a little rocky lately, she hasen't really been herself and she admitted she has been changing. The biggest issue is in a few months I will be going on tour. I'm a pop singer songwriter and have singles out that are becoming very successful. She told me she'd rather have me break it off now because it would hurt more later because she says it won't ever work out with me on tour. She said I'm the one who has to do it before I leave, not her.

I was pretty heart broken, the next night she told me please don't break up with me. I'm very confused about what to do. Advice?

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (20 October 2010):

dirtball agony auntShe's worried about if your relationship can survive the distance and temptation of the road. Her concerns are valid. There will be a lot of temptation out there for you and girls who will throw themselves at you. Can you resist them?

I think you need to tell her exactly what you're feeling. Get her to calmly tell you her feelings and try to find the root of what's causing this behavior in her. I would venture it's fear. The fear of what I laid out above, or maybe fear about her own ability to remain faithful and not jealous or psycho in your absence.

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