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writes:I asked a girl on a date and she said yes. but we were not sure what day we were both free. A few days later i suggested two dates, the first she was busy and the second she said maybe. A few days later we were chatting and I asked her to remember to let me know when she is free to go out and she said ok she'll also ask if her girl friend wants to come too.What does this mean? not interested in me? is it ever not a bad sign? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2019): [EDIT]:
"She has been dancing around even going on a date, and I guess at your persistence she decided to agree."
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2019): I'm inclined to believe she's not that into you. I think she wants her girlfriend there as an excuse to leave; or to keep the outing more friendly than romantic.
She has been dancing around even going on a date, and I guess at your persistence she decided to throw agree. She threw-in a condition that would keep you at arm's-length.
It's not a date, it's hanging-out with her and her girlfriend. Possibly at your expense.
Politely withdraw the date request, wish her well, and move on. Leave her alone. Don't bother her anymore.
Take it as a "no" if you have to keep asking.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 March 2019):
 Either she is NOT interested or it's a cultural thing.
That fact that she made EXCUSES twice already to NOT go out with you (too busy and then a maybe) - I'd wager it's just her NOT being interested and not feeling comfortable turning you down.
I'd skip this one.
Look elsewhere for a date. This one would just be wasting your time.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 March 2019):
 Not interested. She felt bad in turning you down more openly, or she wants to try and keep you around as a friend , but by suggesting to bring along a friend she is saying : " Don't get any romantic ideas ; this is NOT a date ".
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reader, N91 +, writes (11 March 2019):
 Not interested.
She was ‘busy’, then ‘hmmm maybe’ now ‘yeah I’ll come if I can bring X along’.
If you ask someone on a date and they’re genuinely busy but DO want to go on the date, they will MAKE time somewhere. You gave this girl 2 chances and she’s essentially said no both times and now will only come if she can bring a friend. That’s to make it clear that it is NOT a date.
Forget about this one.
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