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*pendy
writes:my best friend called me a boring skan.k cos i said i wont get drunk and sleep with strangers when we go on holiday.i took off our marriage on face book.. she called me pathetic and started swearing at me,calling me a weirdo, fool, stupid..all the horrible names under the sand.. i got upset and told her i dont believe in best friends..she got really mean and rude and told me that shes guna email my ex boyfriend (who really hurt me and dumped me) and tell him everything i said about him. and see how i like that:(she always blows up at every little thing and talks to me like am some stupid person:(why would she call me her best friend then treat me like this?? i even criedshes not made an attempt to speak to me in 3weeks. she liked my activity on facebook and i send her a really sweet song.. i knw she'd like.. and she just completely blanked me.is her birthday next week..should I even bother texting her??thnx..xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): She sounds very dramatic- perhaps she should join the drama club. Seriously, I know it seems difficult right now, but your friend seems to need attention. This is why she acts the way she does. She wants to get your attention and be noticed. She probably doesn't get enough at home, so she has to create it. Just back off, giver her some time to "cool off" and things should return to normal. Try to hang out with other friends in the mean time. Also, just because you won't get drunk and sleep with strangers does NOT in any means make you "boring." In fact, it makes you smart, wise, mature, and responsible. Your friend is just upset that you said no. So let things be- when she's ready to act her age, she'll come back. Until then, focus your attention on more mature, level-headed people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): She isnt being a friend to you, much less a best friend. And if i were you i wouldnt contact her on her birthday, just leave her be. She will find someone else to pester after a while. And you arent a skank, youre a young lady. She doesnt sound as if she would know one if it crept up and bit her in the arse. So pay no attention to her, let her get raddled on holiday and fall in the gutter with her knickers over her head....and come home with an STD. That my dear.....is a skank x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Frankly she sounds like she has some serious problems.
Are you sure you want a best friend like this? If she's trying to drag you down to her level you're only going to have a bad time.
I suggest you find friends who are not going to use you as their personal punching bag.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 March 2010):
 She doesnt sound like a particularly good friend! But I guess the choice here is yours - do you care about her enough to forgive her and do you still want her in your life? Or do you think you would be better off without someone like that?
If you do still want to be friends then I think you need to speak to her face to face, or at least over the phone. By "liking" something on your facebook it shows she is still paying attention to what you are doing therefore she obviously cares a little bit. I think you should text her asking to meet at a certain place, or ring her and basically tell her everything you have said on here. So tell her that the reason for ending your "marriage" on facebook was because she hurt you with her comments, and you dont think a she should treat you like that if she is your best friend. Explain to her that you care about her and value her as a friend, and would like to make-up after this fall out but she needs to understand that she has hurt you, and friends should not behave like this to each other. Hopefully when she hears how much you upset her then she will realise the wrong that she did and apologise.
But if you really dont think this friendship is worth saving then it wont be a big deal to forget about her, after all is she always blows up at you and talks to you badly then I guess you might be better off without someone like this in your life. You need positive, happy, caring people around you not nasty, negative and petty people who clearly dont care about you.
It is all your choice here - you can either forget all about her because after all someone like this is not worth your time, or you can try and patch things up with her if you value her friendship enough to try. But even if you do try and make-up and she still carries on the same way, then it is time to call it a day. She really should be sorry, and if she cant see the pain she has caused then there is no point in being friends with a person like this.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): You are moving in different directions, and because you are not doing the same as her, she is lashing out at you.
In life you get some friends that are there forever and others and you drift apart from.
I would back away from her. You will find a new best friend, someone that has the same values as you.
Your question about sending her a text for birthday next week, no I wouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): get rid of her she is no friend i know this from experecne she trouble.and you,ll get bad name by people living near you.let her do what she wants and you find a better freind .
don,t text her happy birthday because that not a friend that piece of scum people treated me the way treated you
no real freind would say things like that,
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (3 March 2010):
 To be honest, she sounds really childish! Who you sleep with is your choice and shouldn't have anything to do with her.
If I were you I'd leave it. If she really is a true best friend she will appologise and get in touch.
Perhaps as it's her birthday, send her a little note or card as a gesture, but leave it at that. Leave the ball in her court.
Don't appologise though, she is the one who has behaved rudely and childishly. You might even be better off without this person in your life. Only time will tell.
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