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writes:I went to a dance with this girl Im friendly with, at the moment she hates me and wants to avoid me. I have no clue what I did and she won't talk to me. I talked to her took pictures with her and in my fb profile pic she was in there also. Im not that hyper Im really chill so people who are rather hyper don't really work to well with me if unless they don't mind me not being the life of the party. Don't get me wrong I am leading the student section at my school in cheers so Im not quiet but Im not always going nuts. I hate to disappoint anyone if I have control over the situation so I went to the dance with her instead of going to a concert that would have most likely been more fun looking back. The dance was kinda lame no one was dancing with each other the music didn't have nearly enough bass no lights and there were parents in the room. the after party started back at another friends house in the car ride over everything seemed like it was alright we were talking and laughing so I didn't expect anything was going wrong. Well we get to the house have some drinks and it was great I could on;y have 2 drinks cause I had to drive home. I only live down the street but I couldn't leave me car so don't think I was drinking and driving or anything its a private road also. anyway I left at 1 am gave her a hug and thanked her for inviting me. I found out 2 days ago that she said I was a bad date and she hates me. I feel like shit we were pretty good friends and I don't really know what I did wrong. Im not sexually attracted to her as an FYI just putting that out there. My question is why do you think she is mad at me, I didn't get her car door and didn't dance that much just cause it was awkward with parents in the room. Other than that I can't think of what I did. Thank you for reading my long story and for all your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, justfriends +, writes (10 October 2010):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question I know I didn't act like the center of attention at the party. I didn't play a game of pong and was really tired so I wasn't going crazy or anything. I gave her compliments and stuff but other than that I don't know how get her more attention. I agree with what you said about I should have given her some attention and show her that I cared about her. at the after party we both sat down next to each other and just chilled so we did spend time with each other. Yes there is a zero tolerance policy and especially for someone not 21 but it was a private road for the most part.
Thanks for the response I know that next time if there is another chance I will take all of this into consideration.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 you may be a bit too lively for her. Do you really know what you are like when youve had a drink. The old Cliche' 'I can handle a drink' is sometimes wrong. Maybe your personality doesnt match hers and she saw something in you. You sound like you like to be the centre of attention. You maybe should have put some attention on her and not yourself and showed her that you care about her. As for drinking, no matter how many, and driving, isnt zero tollerance the thing where you live.
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