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writes:hi..my girlfriend is really close to her dead beat dad that probably wouldn't be around if it wasn't court ordered, and treats her older sister like shes nothing....she pushes me away when hes around treats me like im nothing when hes around and yes he knows were going out. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, IDK +, writes (8 July 2007):
IDK is verified as being by the original poster of the question well...her father know and thats the only time she pushes me away after i told her how felt about her pushing me away in front of her friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): I don't mean to sound patronising but you are young. Is her dad friendly towards you? I think what probably happens is that he isn't keen on the idea of his little girl having a boyfriend and maybe because you don't get on she doesn't want to upset her dad by taking your side when you are both around. I have that problem with my boyfriend and my dad, and they have only seen each other a couple of times but I know that my dad disapproves. And even though I know I shouldn't, I find myself pushing my boyfriend away when my dad is around because I don't want my dad to be different towards me like he is towards my boyfriend. Have you told her how you feel? If you ask her why she does this then maybe it will make more sense and you can talk about it. But you should be understanding instead of offended. Whatever the reason is, you don't want to push her away further by making her feel misunderstood.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Sit her down and talk to her about it without yelling.
She needs to know how you feel about it all.
If she doesn't stop when you've talked to her about it, I don't think she'll stop doing it and in that case you need to decide whether you want to be in that kind of relationship or not. I would say that if she continues to do this then you need to realise that you're more than someone to just push away and leave her because she's not showing you the affection you deserve.
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