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writes: My partner and I have two children and I love a care for her deeply. I love to show her affection but she does not show me any. She tells me that 'this is me, I can't change get use to it, but she does show our children affection. Recently she has told me she often thinks of looking for some spark,with someone else and is considering leaving our relationship. She has then told me she cannot leave for the kids sake as they are very close to us both. I don't think I can stay as I am becoming insecure especially when she goes out with the girls, only to come home and tell me who was there, but nothing happened. She has told me she wants the spark and believe me I have tried it all. We do have financial pressures and I have quite a stressful job. Can you offer some advice?
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 You seem the kind of relaxed one in this relationship, and just to satisfy her needs you're having to feel pressured! It really shouldn't be like this...
I know you love her and everything, but if you cannot provide her with what she desires then she may leave you.
I know it doesn't seem fair on you - Afterall you're trying your hardest to make this relationship work! I consider your partner quite selfish, she should love you for who you are and not threaten to go off with other men.
Furthermore, her attitude towards you shows that she is perhaps falling out of love with you but if you really do love her, then fight to get her back and make this relationship work. Marriage Councelling can be a great help!
However, if you feel that your love for her is also fading - since you don't have that 'spark' anymore! Then maybe it is time to let go... The good outcome from this for your children's sake, is that they'll both have ever-loving parents who'll still provide them with the affection they're used to.
Good Luck, hope things work out! x
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