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male
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41-50,
*niversalLover
writes:My girlfriend is always getting mad at me no matter what i do for her. she never satisfied. It is as if whatever i do for her is never enough for her. She a very negative person always thinking negative as if nothing could never good right and she always takes the negative view in anything and everything and what makes it worse is that She always complains that i take to long when im having sex with her. she also has this idea that if things dont go her way then its the highway for me pretty much (for example: We were suppose get it in tonight but we didnt because my uncle invited me to a broadway show and not her. what made her mad was the fact that my uncle wanted a guys night out and she felt as though (i am assuming) i shouldn't have the right to go out without her. Even though she didnt say that just how she reacted. She led me to believe thats how she felt. when i went to ask her about it she didnt want to chat about it and she told me i can do whatever i want that she does not care. But at the same time she is always on facebook trying to make plans to have girls night out and never,not once has she posted up "Lets have a couples nights out?"But everytime i do something i bring her with me because if i dont i have to fear her kicking me out the house,no sex, and other things.How can i figure out away to keep her happy and myself without losing her for asking her to give me some space as i do for her when she meeds it? Help me please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): She sure sounds spoiled and selfish, but then again this is how YOU wrote her because that's how YOU feel. That may not necessary be how SHE is. I'm sure her story would be interesting to hear. Why did you start going out with her? Was she always like this, or has she become like this lately? If it's a recent thing, can you think of what made her this? Talk to her and ask her what you can do to help, if there is anything to do.About the sex, are you sure she wanted to have sex in the first place? That's usually is the case when my GF seems not really into the sex. If that's the case, don't have sex when she doesn't want to. Let her come to you. And if you think she's such a pain, then dump her! Why do you want to continue if you clearly feel upset and angry with her. If you want to keep her, talk to her. I believe that's the remedy to most problems if not all in a relationship. Talk talk and talk some more. I'm sure she'd be happy if you asked her how she feels and what she wants. then you can both set some rules, f.ex. two evenings you have together with each other each week, and two which you can hang out with other people. the rest evenings are optional. try not to cancel any of the nights unless it's an emergency. (talk about this too) and make sure to make it up to the other person if you change plans. etc
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 You are not responsible for her happiness. Doesn't sound as though anything you do would work anyway. You have to ask yourself, what are you getting out of this relationship? Do you really want to be with a woman who thinks, and tells you, that you 'take too long when having sex'? There are thousands of women out there complaining that their men don't take long enough!! Has she always been this way, or has she just gradually become this way? If she has always been the same, she's not ever going to change.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 Hi
Im sorry but your GF sounds like a spoiled, childish girl. She is self centered and this will end up draining your spirit. I would let this one go, and find someone who REALLY cares about you, and wants to spend time with you, but also lets you have your space. Your GF is draining your mind, because if she is not the centre of attention, then she will have a tantrum untill she gets her way. She needs to grow up, because one day you WILL of had enough and leave her, then she will see what she had and lost it. I know I may sound a little harsh, but girls like this rarey change their ways. You seem like a nice guy, and you deserve better than this.
I hope this has helped x
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