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anonymous
writes:Hi there, I'm an 18 year old, openly gay male. Last Friday I was out clubbing in a certain amazing area in a certain amazing city having a great time. I finish the evening and eventually got back home at 7 in the morning to casually check my grindr (an app that gay people use td nearby gay people also using grindr) and see that a really cute guy has started talking to me, we get to casual chatting and eventually swap numbers and add eachother on facebook, I realise he's a little bit older than me (I realised he must be over 10 years older), but that didn't phase me as he was cute and seemed to have a really nice personality. I eventually decided if he wanted to grab a coffee the Saturday coming and he liked the sound of that. I left him be, thinking we probably wouldn't chat much between then and the coffee but he started texting me in a friendly, conversational manner. So five days and a lot of texts later it's Friday night again, im going out clubbing again in the previously mentioned, amazing city with a mate and he was out in the same city having drinks after work. As the night goes by and he's texting me at his usual frequency he gets a bit friendlier as he gets more drunk which led me to become more relaxed about seeing him the next day. Saturday finally comes. I went with my mate to a talk at a certain world famous modern art gallery, as the day goes by I decided to text him asking when he wanted to grab coffee when all of a sudden he says something's come up and he can't make it but can do Sunday or during the week. I agree to Sunday, a little dis-heartened, and continue to enjoy the rest of the talk. After the talk my friend and I went to a certain gay bar for a couple of drinks. I texted him saying where I was and the next thing I know he says he's going to pop to see us before meeting his mates for dinner. Half an hour later and there he is looking around for me at the bar, looking very beautiful, I approach him and greet him with a kiss on the cheek and he gets a drink (offering me one) and then comes back to the lounge area that my friend and I were seated in. We had a nice little 3 way conversation, nothing heavy, just light chit-chat. I was completely nervous, sitting there shaking but trying to hide it. At the end of his beer he says he has to get going but said he was going out after his meal and might catch up with me then. Not expecting too much we had a little wander and ended up in a lesbian bar, about half an hour later he texts me asking if I want to join him. I said yes and finished my drink with my friend who was all supportive of me going to see him, then left for the bar he was at. When I got there I found him with a group of friends. It was a little awkward as they were all older than me, but I grabbed a drink and bobbed my head to the music. He spoke to me a little (I say spoke, but mean shouted over the music) and asked where my friend was to which I replied she had headed home and eventually we moved on to a club. Extremely embarrassingly I didn't have the money to get in so he paid for my door fee and bought me a drink, which being really nervous I downed. After that for some unknown reason everything seemed a lot less scary! We went onto the main dance floor and spent the next two or three hours dancing away. I noticed that he didn't touch me once (maybe out of respect?) but if I boogied into a bigger space, he would boogie after me. Whole night went like this until eventually he told me he was heading off. I told him I needed the loo which was in the same direction so I followed him and half heartedly grabbed his wrist in the way you do when you're trying to follow a friend through a croud but he pulled his hand away and kept on pushing through. We parted outside the loo with a kiss and he said he would speak to me soon. I took a really long wee and then decided that I would head off to as I was staying at my mates and it was already quite late/early (you know what I mean). Low and behold he was still in the queue to get his jacket from the cloakroom so I joined him in the line. From there we chatted about this and that, him saying how he was starting to lose interest in clubbing and the gay scene and was looking do start exploring outside of it. We carried on chatting and I told him how I was into slightly older guys, simply because they are less immature than guys my age seem to be. He told me that it was interesting because he tended to go for younger guys and that I seemed quite mature for my age. He ended up walking me back to my bus stop and we finally parted with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. In a way im goad he didn't ask me to go back to his place as for two gay guys we all know what that normally ends in, and that wasn't what I was looking for, and as im not amazing at saying no to new people it would have happened had he so chosen. I got back to my friends flat safe and sound and went to bed (well sofa) and fell almost straight to sleep. I awoke this morning to find a text on my phone asking if I got back safety which I said I had and thankyou for taking me clubbing and thankyou for the drink. So all in all I think he's an awesome guy who's really friendly but I have absolutely no idea what he thinks of me, any ideas? Does he like me? I presume that we'll carry on talking, as before but do I wait for him to ask me out next time or should I ask him? Thankyoubfor reading all of that :-P x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks Boonridge :) swear people hardly ever bother answering here if there's already one answer these days :P
I shall sit it out for a few more drinks/coffees and if he's still chatting to me regularly then I will ask him if he's up for dating :) thanks for the advice :)
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (20 May 2012):
 i think he likes you but he is just looking for something non-promiscuous.
you should lay your cards on the table and ask him does he want a relationship with you/could see the potential for one after a few more dates.
be open and don't waste time but also don't be too needy. there are loads of men out there and you are young and have loads of time and options so don't rush and take your time to get to know someone as when things happen rapidly they often disintegrate just as quickly. does that help?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry for the spelling mistakes, I wrote it from my phone
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