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writes:Hi, well my dilemma is with my girlfriend. We've going out for a year. She's 15 and I'm 14 turning 15 this year... and yes we've been intamate once and decided to wait until we started doing it casually.. we love each other very much.The thing is, we always promised each other that we would never ever cheat on each other, and she broke that promise...She came to me yesterday and told me at a party she went to she made out with another guy... now there was a lot of kids from school there so eventually I would have known, so she decided to tell me herself..I got mad, and just walked off because I didn't want to blow up on her like I felt like doing.. I was pisssed, it hurt... hearing something like that out of the blue, just when you thought everything was perfect..I'm still mad right now, and still havent talked to her, I've been avoiding her phone callls. What should I do???? Should I break up with her??Should i give her another chance?? Should I even talk to her again???Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, andy747 +, writes (28 March 2009):
don't take this the wrong way, but as the previous answer suggests, be careful to call what you're feeling love.
she told you what she did, she feels bad about it, she is trying to call you. all signs she likes YOU not whoever this other guy was, and she knows she messed up.
try to put yourself in her shoes, if it was you who kissed another girl would you want a second chance? if you do like her the way you say you do, you'll give her another chance.
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (28 March 2009):
Yes, she made a mistake. Everyone does. She should've kept her promise but didn't and I don't think you're in the wrong for being mad and hurt over the whole thing. But, if you really do love her like you say you do, I'd give her a second chance. Have a serious talk with her and let her know that it's going to take a while for her to earn your trust back and let her know that you forgive her. If you love her, you will forgive her. She's human and has feelings too and I can probably guess that she's feeling just as bad as you are right about now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): well to be honest a lot of people say 'we are in love', considering your age; without experience in life and love as yet you could be easily mistaken for lust.
however what she did to you no matter the circumstances were wrong, ok promises can be broken thats something u learn with time.
it was only a kiss and she told u, yes it would break your heart as u feel decieved and cheated but well i still think people deserve a second chance if u genuwinly feel the way you do with each other then give it another go. she must be hurting too. were only human we all are going to make mistakes in our life, trust me one day u will too, its only natural
your still young and dont need to be worried about relationships and these dramas, my advice is give yourself both some time out think about it and see how u feel after a couple of days...work it out
but dont let her take u for a ride! i think learnin from ur mistakes once is enough to learn from it..so a second time is not an option!
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