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writes:i hve a girl who is my best frd... i love her a lot... she has a crush on a guy... bt tht guy jst nvr respnds to her.. he is very egoistic.... now she has decided to move on from him... i cant tell that i love her coz if i do i m 200% sure my frdship would b over.... which i dont want at any cost.... now the problem is .. she love me.. bt she considers me her bro... i hve told her "love u" many times.. bt she doesnt understands.. instead she takes in the wrong way that i m telling her "love u" as a bro.. she evns tells me the same... the problem is i love her lyk a boy would do a girl.. not like her bro.. bt she loves me like i m her bro.... i m damm confused... !! may b she also loves me bt she thinks tht the love she is doing is in the brotherhood sense.. may b she is confused?? dont knw abt her bt i m damm confused.. plz help!!!
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reader, Adelaide's Agony Aunt  +, writes (19 March 2011):
Dear 18-21;It is lovely to hear you have such tender feelings for this girl. I think you should write her a letter and give it to her in person saying "This is for you", leaving her to read it alone and reply the way she wants to. Even if she doesn't indicate she has the same feelings now the letter I am going to help you write she will remember and may keep and she may well come around in time as a result.O.K. so the letter.Plain piece of paper, Write the following:The things I like about you* the way you...* when we..* your hair...etc.be honest with the list, not over the top, maybe a maximum of ten things. If there is something pretty about her or something she wears say it or if you really like something that you do together say it, don't put in anything dirty that's not cool. Sweet and tender will win the girl. Imagine you were receiving such a letter and think what you would like to hear someone likes about you. Mentioning her eyes and hair is good if they have an effect on you or that she has a beautiful laugh, you know what really appeals to you about her.O.K. so you've listed the most impressive things now you end the letter with:I can tell you these things because I am your friend but the thing is I would like to kiss you too.Fold it up, then when you know you will be passing her at some point alone (not in a group) or if you have to arrange a time to see her, hand it to her with a single flower(this is important - even if it's a daisy, pick a flower that is a colour she likes and put it on top) saying "this is for you" and keep walking after you hand it to her so she is left alone to contemplate the kiss option. If she's like "what?" when you hand it to her just say "it's all cool, I'll wait to hear from you" but leave.This may seem a full on thing to do but she will like the sweet stuff and the flower if she really is your friend. If this doesn't work, there will be a girl who likes being treated this way in your future.Good luck, Adelaide's Agony Aunt
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reader, Problem.helper  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 Well if you didn't make any signs that you like her more than a friend she will take you as friend as she probably thinks that you would make a move on her if you had any of those feelings. She is now looking at you as her best friend not the guy that she has romantic thoughts about.Speaking from my experience make a move till it's not too late. If she has not guy shes got a crush at, thats the perfect time, because once she does you are out of the picture.You don't have to tell her that you love her, just show interest that you would like to date her. You have to take it slow because than if she's not ready for your feelings it could be weird for you to hang out and she could feel quilty that she doesn't have the same feelings as you do.
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reader, nwacute  +, writes (19 March 2011):
Just express your feeling for her first i know what she will do
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