She loves me but doesn't want me

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My ex and I broke up a few months ago. We didnt talk too much the first few weeks after. About two weeks ago we talked in person about our situation (we're in a long distance relationship) She says that she loves me and even invited me over to hang out with her parents and entire family. She says she still really cares about me and that she just does not want a boyfriend right now. She wants to hang out when we're home for school and especially in the summertime. She kept reiterating the summertime for a time to kind of give our relationship another go. She said before then she does not anticipate us getting back together. She told me to "do what you gotta do"...in regards to dating other ppl and/or moving on. She told me that if I were to go out on a date with another girl then i should let her know because she thinks she should know? (Even though she dumped me) I'm not sure what to do in regards of other girls. I still am very much in love with her and only want to be with her. But i feel like if i dont get out there and experience a bit then I'm missing out. She also mentioned that if i were to go out on a date then she'd probably be very upset but would understand. And i'm talking so upset that she said she wouldnt talk to me for a few days. This is very very unfair I think because she decided to break up with me. I'm supposed to visit her at school in 2 weeks so I don't want to go on a date and completely ruin my chance with her. But i feel like she's keeping me within arms length because she wants to be with me (showing me all the signs) but does not want me RIGHT now. Very confusing if you ask me. I do not know what to do because I feel like if I start seeing other people she'll get upset with me and i'll hurt her, but on the other hand i feel like she wants to be with me, but is just waiting for the right time. I think our weekend together in 2 weeks will be a very good indication of how things will go. Even yesterday she called me "love" in a message. Another thing I want to add about me seeing other people is that I don't think that she will ever really want me back until she feels like she's losing me. I've always been there for her and maybe even a little too much recently. Let me know if you have any information or advice that will help. Thanks!

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