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writes: King of all frustrating situations to be in.Me, Irish, living in London. My girlfriend, South African was living in London, but now home in SA to study and for visa reasons.We were good friends until 1 year ago. We hooked up, had an amazing 1 year relationship together. I’ve known her for over 2 years now. Our relationship ended because she had to return to SA to study as she is only 20 and me being 24. Plus she had to go home because her visa was due to expire.I am an average guy and my girlfriend is beautiful! So beautiful that I can't take her anywhere without other guys looking at her or even chatting her up when I am not around. Even women will go up to her and let her know how beautiful she is. All the time! I am 5 foot 7 and she is 5 foot 9/10 and she stands out well in public but not only that she has a great figure, hair, eyes, personality. Everything!My girlfriend is on my mind all the time, it's been one month since she flew home but it feels like 6 months. We were flatmates together for 1 year but also lovers living in each and others' pockets for another year. Shes also my best friend who I did everything with.I am visiting her in April for a holiday, but we both don’t know what to do because we are crazy about each other but visas restrict us. I have offered to move to SA but she does not want this maybe because it's such a risk that it could fail then she will blame herself for ruining my life. And she thinks maybe I would blame her. Plus she is going to Uni and thinks maybe she will miss out all the if she is with me in SA.What I do know is that after Uni she wants to be with me! That’s like 3 or 4 years a way. Even if I try and move on I compare other girls to my girlfriend. We did everything together! And I can't imagine been with someone else. I am not interested in anyone else.Everytime I talk to her on the phone I just want to cry! She lives so far away!I am going nuts and sometimes I even feel like ending my life to see her in heaven! But I am not that silly.I always believed if 2 people loved each her then that was the most powerful thing in the world and that would stop no couple from been together. My girlfriend has had a few boyfriends that she loved and treats me in the same way that she will get over me eventually. This girlfriend of mine is my first true love. She's met everyone from my side of the world (family and friends)What can I do? What can anyone do? Has anyone ever been in a situation like this?The thought of her been with someone else is like a knife going through my heart, though I know in time she will get a new boyfriend when she is over me. Why is the world so cruel!All I want to do now is leave London and move to Canada / Australia to get out of the daily routine in my life so that I won't think about her as much and be as active as possible, but it's so hard!!!I think she is the one! But we are both young! And we are ready for marriage and we would only get married for the right reasons and not the wrong reasons.Not only all this but her culture differs to Europe completely and she wants to settle down eventually in SA…..compromise please?Please help all, as I will appreciated input and feedback on this matter!Thanks,Gecko
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2006): Look at it this way: If you're meant to be together, then you will be. Try not to focus too much on the future, but on the present and waht's going on now. Don't be afriad to get out there and try to live and experience another love life.. or however that should be worded, haha.I'm currently in love with a guy who's 3 hours away.. I could be going to the same school as him next year, though.. We met in a high school organization and have met twice at the organization's state meets.. We also got to see each other in August .. our parents met and such.. I finally just got to see him last Saturday, too.. at his school.. It was very hard, though, because there wasn't supposed to be any PDA.. But I had to go to the bathroom and he was the only one who knew where it was.. so he guided me there and we.. made out, lol. Anyway, long distance relationships are very very hard. We're currently not together.. word wise, I guess.. so we're able to explore our options.. But I think we've both agreed we don't have any other interests but each other, so.. *shrug*.. I really don't know what to say but you're not alone.. And if it's meant to happen, it will. If only we knew if it would, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I meant was we are both not ready for marriage though we may think that we are both for each other...early days.Gecko.
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