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writes:Has anyone fallen back in love with the person they fell out of love with ?My girlfriend of 3 years told me she loves me but is not in love with me so she broke up with me. When she did she said that with all of her exes she knew it was over but with me her feelings could change at any time.I know people might think she is stringing me along but I know for a fact she has no one else. It's a small town and word travels fast.It's ben a month almost and she calls me almost everyday to see how im doing and what im up to. I stopped calling her back , but she still seems to call and leave a message. Also all our pictures are still up at the house. I dont know what is going on , I tell myself its over for ever. But I still have a little bit of hope. Has anyone gotten back together with the person they fell out of love with?
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Some people feel confused, tired of an old routine that just seems to stay steadily boring. It is possible that her feelings reignited after changing her situation and surroundings.
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reader, On Cloud9  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Some would say it is not possble to get that in love feeling back, but I would say from past experience that yes it is possible.
My current partner told me some time ago now that he loves and cared for me but was not in love with me, similar to you. I was devastated. We, after the tears, began to talk and I found out that he was very depressed about his own life and wanted to make a change and thought that by changing himself to single he could be happy again.
We started counselling together and leant a lot about ourselves and the reasons for our behaviour towards each other. I found it to be very enlightening and it worked for us both because shortly afterwards he told me he was deeply in love with me and that he always was, he just was very unhappy.
Some people think the 'in love' feeling to be the butterflies, you know like when you first started seeing each other and that is what they expect to feel but you see i don't believe it is possible to have the 'in love' feeling with someone all the time, there are times when you can see your partner so far, but if there is love there, then anything is possible.
Answer to your question is yes, I got back together with someone that said they fell out of love with me and things has gone from strength to strength.
I must mention however that having hope is a good thing but one thing I will say is that my partner had hope too, hope that he would get the feelings back. You need to talk to your ex and establish whether there is any chance of this working through counselling. If so, great and I wish you both all the best. If not, then I would suggest you re energise and prepare yourself for your happy and fulfilling future relationship/s with women/woman that will love you back.
Hope that made sense, and please feel free to come back to me if you want to talk some more x
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