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writes:i have a couple issues: 1- this girl I'm with (currently) likes really hard, fast sex- the woman I was with previously (for 4 years) liked really slow sex- So now, I'm trying to do the fast thing- and though the sensual, physicality of it is a turn-on, I find that I have great difficulty in mainting an erection. I have to continually be turned on again before I can do anything- and oral sex doesn't seem to work even. I was, at one point a chronic masturbater, however I've cut down, and haven't noticed any improvement. Part of the problem for me, is that, with fast sex (even when she's on top, doing most of the work) I lose have the sensation in my genitals. Its almost as if nothings going on. so I'm a little frustrated. now I'm trying some herbal supliments, but if anyone has any ideas that would really be great.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (11 May 2008):
 I know exactly how you feel. I like slow sex, but many women like hard, fast sex.
I think the problem will even out in the long run. In time it's normal for two people to adjust to each other's style of lovemaking.
Anyway, my suggestion is to reach an agreement with her. You'll start out with slow, loving sex the way you like it for as long as you want to go. Then, at the end, you'll give her the hard sex that she likes so she can reach a satisfactory orgasm. That way she may come to slow down and enjoy your lovemaking style while guaranteeing she gets her frenzied climax in the end. Win-win.
The suggestion about spoons or rear entry is a good one. It stimulates the woman much more strongly without having to go crazy like a dog on heat. (I found this out from a girlfriend who wanted hard sex. She eventually decided this was the only way I could satisfy her!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): hmmm.... maybe tell her and ask her if you can take it slow.. and then slowly start going faster.. i mean over days, weeks, or months.. i think its just the sudden change that is hard for your body.
i dun kno if that helped, but eh.
mariah
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reader, pie303  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 if you find that she likes it hard trying it from behind might be what shes looking for. you won't have to go as fast and she might like it a little better. i find that the penis goes in deeper and both parties finish quicker.
sorry i couldn't be more help, good luck~
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Does fast sex make you nervous, stressed? Especially when she is on top. It is this position (on top) that can cause severe damage (popping sound) of the penis (blood vessel break) if she comes down wrong on top of it.
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