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writes:dear users,Yesterday i got into kinda trouble with my relationship. But let's start from a very beginning.Im a 18 years old guy that is very jealous.She is almost 18 years old and loves to play rpg with guys. The games are played by two players. Their characters have adventures and often romances, too.That thing always blowed my brains off and i told her about it.She kept ensuring me that it's just a game and both them and the guys she met don't matter to her.She knew that her games were making me angry and - without me asking for it - she promised me to end it.But, yesterday i got a feeling and decided to check it. I created a fake account on her site and as an anonymous asked her if she wants to play a rpg. She accepted and this is where it starts.I told her who the anonymous guy realy is and she got angry.She said that she cant stop having rpgs and that she likes meeting new guys over internet. And that her lie was all, ALL my fault. I couldnt believed that it happened, she doesnt feel responsible in any way. I dont know what to do. I dont know if i can trust her, and whether I should go away from this relationship... Thats why i'm here.Please tell me guys, what would you do if you were in my shoes? All i cant let go is that she lied to me, i dont care if she plays those rpgs or not... But she lied to me and blames me!
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 If you don't mind her playing RPG then, why as you say, did they make you angry?? Like it or not you were trying to take something away from her that she enjoyed. Which made her feel like she had to hide it from you by your attitude and obvious disaproval. Now your mad because she lied to you about it, which she did, but you are the reason she felt like she had to lie about it in the first place. So even though she was wrong, you have to take responsibility for half the blame yourself.
Of course this arguement only holds water if it all remained in the fantasy world and never resulted in real life cheating in any form. Like talking to the guys off the game on FB or MS or any talk of meeting up with them in real life.
If not then it's just your fears talking and you can't let your fears spill over into your real life relationship without good cause. That is how you push people away not hold them close.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): I have no clue what rpg is. If you could tell me maybe I can understand better. It sounds like a virtual game where she can talk to people over the internet?
Any who, when someone lies and then tries to blame it on the other person they're not worth it. I would leave. Don't put up with liars it's a waste of time. Someone who makes you feel guilty for what they lied about is not a person you can continue in a relationship with.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
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