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writes:i have been married to my wife for 13 years i just found out that she lied too me about how many people that she had sex with prior too us getting married she told me that she just rembered about one more person about five years ago but just now told me should i trust her
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): strange how she forgot to mention this other ones. loss of memory on her part?? women DO NOT forget the number of men they have had sex with. your wife delibertaey lied and now she says to trust her? trust that for once she is telling the truth or trust her that she won't suddenly remember the next man she slept with?
the issue is not the number of men she slept with but her lies and keeping it a secret. depends what you can live with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): This TOTALLY depends on the specifics of the case.
If she's told you about 14 guys in the past, and she just remembered a teenage one-night stand to make it 15? Forget about it.
If she's been telling you that she's only had 2 other guys before you in her life, and now she has just "remembered" that she was screwing somebody that you know for a few months right before you met her . . . well, that's something else entirely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): guess its a good thing she forgot hugh? you may not have gotton married at all... or better yet, maybe she should interrogate you and find out evrery single small detail and then jump you when you leave something out.
insecurities are a bitch. but, being alone and breaking a 13 year marriage over a minute detail is an even bigger one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): 13 years and you're asking us if she's trustworthy. Live in the present man, for God's sake. Don't go digging in graveyards. What difference does it make? She told you the truth and now you are unhappy with her. What do you want from her? If you wanted a virgin when you married you should have married another woman then.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (9 August 2009):
 Is it really that big of a deal?
Don't make something out of nothing, past lovers are just that: past! And she may have really forgotten & not thought too much about it to bring it up when she did remember...so what. Get over yourself man, you've been married 13 years, don't ruin it over something petty like this.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 wow its just a number and your willing to break your marriage for it what does that say about you. she forgot so being honest she told you. and now your flying off the handle if you do this every time she is honest then she wont be so honest anymore. plus on a side note what buisness is it of yours her past is hers not yours ! so forget about it or you will ruin anything good worth keeping in your life. good luck aphex
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