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*imon1976
writes:ive been going out with a woman for about a month now, she was still in a stale relationship until she split up with him last week she told me they hadnt had sex for a while but saturday just gone she tells me the night before she moved out she slept with him as a way of saying goodbye, she says its now over but it is chewing my guts to pieces knowing she still had sex with him behind my back i dont know what to do?
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reader, home_land  +, writes (26 March 2007):
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forget about it and go on if you love her and think why did she leave him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): Simon, you made a choice to get involved with a female who wasn't yours to begin with. She was already in a relationship with a man, although it was a stale, dead relationship If anything, he has the right more than you, to feel like 'his guts are being chewed out'. Your gf had sex with him because she felt guilt over leaving him for you and causing him duress. But she did have a choice. A more wiser, mature way for her to have dealt with this was to say to him "no sex-it's over-goodbye' and walk away. She made a poor decision that caused you pain, simply because she felt she owed something of value to this man. And that 'was her body'. That is so sad. She didn't owe him anything. Relationships go dead and couples break up, all the time. This is life and we learn from that and move on. She is indeed, immature and was weakened by her guilt. She has to learn to be strong, assertive and find a solid, more mature outlook in life. You can take this bit of info about her and help her become more stronger person and learn to forgive her. Or you can allow this to erode your love for her. It's your decision. I say, forget it and move on to happier times with her because that what you want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): I think this is pretty common, it is really goodbye sex, and she was too honest for her own good, sometimes the other party just puts a lot of pressure on the person who broke up with them to have sex one last time, it is hard to let go, and the fact that she told you is probably her way of being honest with you in hopes that you will know that this relationship is over for her, in case the guy keeps popping back into her life, which twenty somethings tend to do. You don't say how old she is, but my guess is she is near 10 years younger than you are, if she is not in her twenties then this behavior is pretty immature for her age, if she is, it is par for the course, and is what you get for dating someone so much younger than you are.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Sounds like she's not that into you. . . or she's pretty insensitive. In either case, I'd be keeping my options open, if I were you, and don't get too wrapped up in her. What she did was just wrong, if she cares at all for you. If you're looking for a serious relationship, I'd be looking elsewhere.
Good luck!
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