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36-40,
*oneDeal
writes:My girlfriend confess to me that she kissed her best friend. She told me it was a mistake and had no feeling attached to it. Of course I got angry but im a reasonable person and i know everyone makes mistakes. I told her that I applaud her for telling me but im mad that the kissed had her male, who I know by the way because all three of us went to high school together. I told her that this hurt me and im going to need to heal so in the mean time the little time that they had to hang is gone and the only form of communication is via text or on the phone. The only reason I decided on this decision was because she really hold on to friendships especially if its been some years. I on the other can care less how many years you have, If you slip up ill cut you loose in a heartbeat.Obviously she doesn't listen because the minute he calls and say he is outside, she complete forgets what I said and just makes me more angry. I confront her multiple time about that but she tell's me he is just a friend. But what she does understand is that she probably she has a friend but he is looking to get more out of it. Its been months since this happened and everything is ok, but things have changed to a point were I allow her to see him as long as i say its ok, and yes sometimes I say yes and sometimes i say no. But it gotten to a point were she still doesnt listen, she feels that because im her boyfriend and he is ust a friend that there is nothing going on between them. I understand that but she doesnt understand that she is making it diffcult for me to heal from the situation because deep down inside I do not trust that guy one bit around my girl....so I'm asking for help what should i do?
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 July 2009):
 People do make mistakes, but this particular mistake crossed the boundary from "just friends" to violating the relationship she has with you. As far as your healing, I don't believe your girlfriend respects you and this process. Although I don't see the way she treats you as being proper, you can't tell her who to associate with and who not to. The question is: How long do you plan on staying with someone who apparently doesn't respect you or your relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): it sounds like she likes him a bit but is confused
yikes.. maybe you should ask her outright how she feels coz u dont want to be messed about. afterall if shes kissing him then she obviously feels something for the guy. he knows shes going steady so he must not care about your feelings in this unless it was a complete one off?
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