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writes:My wife left me a year and a half ago. We decided about 2 months ago to get back together. But before we got back together I told her that I cheated on her when we were married....she did not know this when she left. Now she is faced with the issue of me lying all this time. I am hurt also becuase she left and had a boyfriend for 7 months when we were apart. But now she is unsure if she can trust me and be with me because I cheated. Is there hope for us? Can we get past this and move on together? What can I do to to help her get through this? She has so much pain now and I only want to make it better.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 November 2007):
 I respect your honesty. Be very open, showing her that you have nothing to hide. In short, do all of the things that you didn't do when you were cheating. Call her to tell her when you are going to be late, and the real reason why. Maybe give her your passwords to your mail accounts on the internet. Just be very very very very very open to show her that you are not doing this again.
Second, you cheated because of something (even though I don't believe there is ever a good excuse for it.) What did this affair fulfill for you that your marriage was not fulfilling? Be willing to get marital counseling.
And if she just wants to just be alone to think, give her that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Hi,Im am sorry to hear about thiis but what you did was horrible you committed adultry and have betrayed your wife although she has done the same. I dont think there is much hope but there is a possibility it could work out as every successful marriage has to have its ups and downs.You should try and comfort her and give her promises that she can trust you on and not feel like shes being lied to again.I hope it works out for you and your wife.Good Luck
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