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writes:I have this friend, lets call her N, who is very pushy. For example, we were making plans to hang out and we were going to walk around our neighborhoods, as they are next to each other. She texted me saying her parents were leaving and she was coming over now. I texted her 3 times saying that I wasn't allowed to have her over for about another hour. She came over anyway and I ended up getting in trouble later because she wasn't allowed over. And another time she called me and we were talking and she said we should hang out. I said ok and then she said "lets sleepover at your place!". i said i don't know I'll have to ask and she kept pushing until I finally made up some excuse. She does stuff like that all the time and I'm kind of scared to just say no. Shes a good friend of mine and really popular so if I annoy her she could make my year miserable. She did it to my other friend. She ropes people into stuff and I'm used to just agreeing with whatever she says. How can deal with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!!
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reader, angellovesgeo +, writes (26 August 2011):
 gurl... what you need to do is drop her as a friend. but do it slowly because if u just do it out of no where shes gonna know somethings up. but it sounds like she controlls you but you definately need to put your foot down and say heyy if i say no then you caant end of discussin. ive been through this my self. im 17 and when iwas like 13 and 14 my supposivly bestfriend took advantage of me. but icalled it quits like a bad relationship. she tried to crawl back into my life yrs later but i aint haveing it itold her straight up to get a life
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 August 2011):
 I understand that you don't want to be on her "bad" side, but being a door mat/ push over is not going to make you more popular in school.
She doesn't really sound like that much of a friend honestly. But she does sound like she is trying to hang out with you, unless she is the type that will use people til she gets bored and finds someone else to manipulate.
Honestly, you need to learn the word NO. And to use it. People will overall respect you a lot more if you can stand up for yourself.
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